When I completed SHS and needed money to attend university, my dad told me to go and learn how to sew or find any apprenticeship job around because he didn’t have the money to pay for a degree. I was hurt, just like I was hurt anytime I came home for school fees during SHS and he told me to go to my mom for it. I’m smart. I was topping my class, but my dad didn’t find it worthy to spend money on me. Instead, he was taking care of his nephews and nieces.
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My mom and her siblings pulled resources together and sent me to university. In my fourth year, my dad called me to come home for a serious discussion. His friend’s son abroad wanted to marry me, so he was telling me to prepare. I asked, “Is that the serious discussion, or is there more coming after this?”
He made it sound like I didn’t have a choice. He was my dad and he knew what was best for me, so I should accept. I went back to school and told him not to discuss such issues with me again. My mom called to tell me he’d been receiving money from his friend and the son, telling them I’d agreed to marry the guy.
All of a sudden, my dad started sending me money out of the blue. He would send me GHC500 and say, “This is from your husband. He says you should buy books.” The highest amount he sent was GHC1,000, telling me it was for my hostel fees and it was coming from my husband abroad. The guy abroad called only once, asking how I was doing and telling me he would come to marry me as if it was a given.
After my graduation, when I was going up and down looking for a better place to do my service, my dad announced that the guy was coming so I should prepare to meet him. I told him I wasn’t ready to meet any man. He screamed, “Then get ready to vomit every penny he has spent on you!” I retorted, “Has he ever sent any money my way? Every money you gave me was money from a father to his daughter. I don’t know any man.”
Before the guy arrived, my dad invited me to go and see the guy’s father with him. It took my mother’s plea for me to agree to go. On the way, he told me, “If you dare go and misbehave over there, it’s over for you. This is our chance to leave this slum we call life.”
The man was nice, hugging me and calling me “beautiful tree” and all that. He asked about school, the course I did, and if I was ready to give him five grandchildren.
After all the pleasantries, I asked if I could talk. I looked into the man’s eyes and said, “I’m pregnant by a man my dad doesn’t like. He said I should say yes to your son so I can pin the pregnancy on him. I like your son, and I think he deserves to know the truth.”
My dad slapped my back and screamed, “What silly accusation is that? She’s lying; I don’t know anything about what she’s saying.”
I started crying. He pulled me off my seat and pushed me out of the room. “You’re such an embarrassment to my name. God will punish you for this embarrassment.”
It became a huge problem between him and his friend, where his friend accused him of manipulation and cut him off in the end. My mom said I went too far, so I asked her, “Between me and your husband, who went too far?”
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My dad doesn’t talk to me, and I don’t even care. My elder brother sided with me and also doesn’t speak to my dad. I’m doing my best not to return to that village again or have my children experience such a village upbringing. That’s the most important thing to me now when I wake up and go to work. My dad can tickle himself and laugh for all I care.
—Abrefi
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I know this maybe different but yes you will need his forgiveness with time.
You went too far by embarrassing him.
Wish you just said the truth, your not interested in anything wud have saved you all the drama. His your father and before God that respect should be accorded regardless…. Revenge is for God and having said the truth would have saved you a million struggles.
Ask him to forgive you and let Your path be clear without obstacles from your father’s anger.
Totally agree.
You are wrong for lying and I can tell you are so disrespectful… Besides you knew all along and yet you took the money only to play smart. He as a father is not wrong for trying to betroth his daughter for economic reasons. Go and ask for his forgiveness cause this will definitely bite you one day.
You went overboard. Go and apologize to your father.
Abrefi you were very wrong and stupid too.
If you didn’t want to marry the man’s son, you should have just told the truth. Instead you ate his money, knowing fully well that it was from him and then you told a horrible lie that besmirched your father’s character. Only God knows what his friend must have told other people about him. If he curses you, it will follow you till the end of your days, because he has just cause.
As for the friend’s son, you had no solid objection to him apart from the fact that he was coming from your father. You should have at least met him to decide whether you liked him or not. You’ll end up dating stupid young boys who will deceive you and use your heart to play football. If you’re unlucky, you might even end up as a baby mama, meanwhile you had what seemed to be an honourable man who was willing to invest in your future, whom you drove away with an extremely silly lie.
You’re actually very stupid, acting like an immature 12 year old.
You are not wrong and you are not disrespectful either. Those claiming holier than thou can F themselves. When did silent beads platform became a toxic place for malicious insults and scrutiny. Calling someone Stupid because an irresponsible father thought he could pimp her to a man abroad just for benefits. A father who only saw his own daughter as a means to an end? A way to end his poverty and suddenly the daughter becomes the devil. You lot must be out of your minds. Dear writer you did absolutely nothing wrong and yes you will thrive without a the blessings of the very person who sees you as a meal ticket. Funny how the same person who commented on someone’s post calling her stupid for believing in spiritual attack is suddenly berating another for her own father’s cruelty. If you read a story and lack what to say just shut up you don’t have to comment.