When I moved into a new neighbourhood a few years ago, I never imagined I’d walk away with such a sharp lesson about women, specifically, married women who hide the truth of their marital status behind soft smiles and ringless fingers.
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I had barely unpacked in the new place when two ladies living nearby started getting acquainted with me. As a new person in the area, I thought it was a great idea to get to know people. One of them, in particular, made an impression. She would casually stop by, and either ask me for chilled water or just chat with me.
With time, she would often call me and ask me to come sit with her at her shop on weekends. I never did. I was mostly just taking my time. I wanted to know her better before getting comfortable around her like that.
One day when we were talking when I asked if she was in a relationship. She told me, “I have two children but I am a single parent.” When I said okay she added, “The man is still responsible.”
I wanted to believe her but something didn’t sit right with me. Sometimes when I called her at night, she’d sound like I was disturbing her peace. As if my call came at the wrong hour. Every night I called, I got the same vibe.
One day, I decided to ask an old man in the area about her. I did not expect to hear him say, “Oh, that lady? She’s married. Her husband drives a cargo truck. He travels a lot.”
My heart sank. I was beginning to like her so you can understand why I felt disappointed. I called her immediately, sounding angry and betrayed. She wasn’t the least bit remorseful. She was rather defensive, “Who told you that I am married? So you just came to this area and you have started investigating me now?”
I blocked her that very moment. But that was just the beginning of my problems with married women.
After her, I grew friendly with another lady who owned a shop near where I lived. We were from the same tribe, and our conversations were warm and familiar. Slowly, she started showing more than just friendliness. There were signs, little things ladies do when they’re trying to show interest in a man. She’d cook and invite me to come get some. She’d call me at midnight and speak for hours like there was no one else in her world.
It felt harmless at first. However, something felt off.
Whenever I asked about her love life, she danced around it. “I’m just taking my time,” she’d say. I told her I’d like to meet some of her friends or close family members one day—just to understand who she was. She agreed, but none of the meetings ever happened.
Things escalated when she came to my place one night. We laughed, we talked, and before I knew it, we were doing intimate things.
Right when we were in the heat of the moment, her body warm and soft against mine, she whispered, “I have something to tell you.”
“What is it?” I asked. I half expected them to say that she was in love with me. I was ready to tell her how I felt too. To my dismay, she said, “I’m married.”
I froze.
How do you even respond when someone hits you with a bomb at that exact moment? She tried to justify it. “If I had told you earlier, you wouldn’t have been interested.”
She was right. I wouldn’t have.
Turns out, her husband was a night driver. That explained how she was able to call at such late hours and spend so much time on the phone.
I tried to cut her off after her confession but she kept trying to pull me back in. I had to leave the area entirely just to start fresh.
There were more encounters with married women but I have held my own. Some women didn’t even hide the fact that they were married. Rather, they’d find ways to flirt to suggest there was room for an extramarital affair. If I wasn’t disciplined, I would have easily fallen for their whims.
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People often talk about men who hide their marital status and lie that they are single. But rarely do we discuss the married women who carefully craft stories, omit rings, and manipulate men’s emotions to fill voids only they know about.
So now, I don’t just take a lady’s words at face value. I pay attention. I listen attentively. I have learned the hard way that not everyone who says they’re single is truly single.
—James
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But you alrealdy slept with them, at least one so i don’t see how discipline come into this.