It has been a year and a half since I last had my children with me. Why is it so?
My wife, now my ex-wife, has made it impossible for them to come and visit me. She won’t agree to it, and she won’t even give me a reason why the children cannot come and see their father during the holidays.
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They are currently on their long holidays, and I so much want to have them with me under my roof. I have asked her, and she said no. I tried to probe further, but I didn’t get any answers. I have been suffering this dilemma for close to two years now.
Is it a crime? Is it a crime that I want to have time with my children?
I want the grace of seeing them wake up from sleep, and even go to sleep. They usually are chatty when you are trying to put them to bed. I want the grace to prepare their breakfast, take them out for lunch, and cook supper together. Even go to the park with them for some time.
I do not understand why she will not let them come to me, their father.
My theory is that she herself sees the magnitude of the love I have for them and probably thinks I will not return them if she lets them come to me. Besides that, I do not know any other reason why she will not let the kids come and spend time with their father.
But even then, I always send their money every month, on the clock. I do not defer on my child support.
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I want to be a present father, not just a man who sends money to his kids every month. No, I do not want to be that kind of father. I want to be there for them. I want to spend time with them and be part of their lives.
So what can I do? What other means can I explore?
I really miss my chipmunks.
—AKOTO
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Akoto, nti court w0 h0 yi wo nnhu anaaa? AH!
And I suppose you are doing your duties as a man. If that is true, the courts can be your way to handle this back and forth. And sure, women, y’all gotta think and act better! No has time for such petty moves!
I don’t mean to be rude but I think you’re not wise. I’m sorry for this but the fact that you guys are divorced now, does not mean you should not see your children. If you will listen just do this and wait to see what can will do in your situation. STOP SENDING YOUR OWN CHILDREN THEIR MONTHLY MONEY. You’re not being wicked and wait to see if she won’t call to ask for the money. Then your terms comes in. LET ME SEE MY BOYS OR ELSE NO MONEY. You should be very careful, if it’s true that you’re sending them their the money monthly bro you’re just wasting your money. The children will not have any love for you because your ex wife is bitter and is keeping them away from you BUT NOT ONLY THAT, she’s brain washing them. Trust they will grow to accuse you of something you know nothing about. BE WISE!
Very dangerous advice! If you fail to give your children upkeep money you will be giving your ex all the ammunition to keep them permanently from you. Go to court and let the court grant you access. From then on if she refuses to comply, you cite her for contempt.
I love me some wise people, Sammy!
This is where you will have to document everything. Every rejection via message, every support you sent to them, every audio conversation. Push further to video conversation. If she refuses, document that also.
Send her to court and demand for visitation rights. Above all these, pray. All the best.
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