My boyfriend and I have a child together, but ever since I got pregnant, I have noticed a drastic change in him. The man who was bubbly and all over me since we started dating now only calls once in a while to check up on us, and even that feels more like an obligation. He gives me a one-word answer when I try to start a conversation, he leaves me talking on the phone until it becomes awkward and I hang up out of shame. He earns a lot, but I have to force him to send money for our child. I call and leave multiple messages to remind him.

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I have tried several times to have an honest conversation about the current state of our relationship, but whenever I bring it up, he brushes it aside and tells me not to worry because we are still together. Deep down, though, I know things are not the same, and I no longer feel like I am in a relationship with him.

When, he invited my child and me to spend some time with him. I hoped it would give us a chance to reconnect, but throughout the visit, he was cold and distant towards me. Also, beside his bed was a condom, and in the laundry basket, I saw women’s clothing that clearly did not belong to me. I was devastated, but I did not confront him because I was not ready for whatever explanation he might give.

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At this point, I feel abandoned and hopeless, yet still very much in love with him. Do you know how suffocating it is to be in love with a man who has fallen out of love with you before your own eyes? I did not think it would be me, but here I am, trying to get him to fall back in love with me, to include me in his future, to tell me it is still me and only me and him that matters. Clearly, there are signs to suggest there is someone else, but I dread the day it will come out of his mouth, to tell me. I do not know how I will take it if he confirms it. I might run mad, I might leave. I do not know what will happen. I do not know where to begin.

How do I let go of someone who has already emotionally checked out of the relationship? I would appreciate any advice.

— Blessing

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