My boyfriend has a business he runs with his ex-girlfriend. It was him who got her into the business, and they used to travel to China for their goods. When I started dating him, it was in March. They were scheduled to go on a business trip to China that month, and they went together, solely for sourcing items for their business. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and made him promise me he was going to behave himself throughout the trip until he returned home.

Their history is something else. The lady’s parents didn’t agree for them to get married because of their religious backgrounds. The girl is Muslim, so they had to rather end things when they couldn’t get her family to agree to their marriage.

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But a few days after he travelled, I realised I was pregnant. He was jumping when I told him. I asked him what we should do about it, and he said that I should keep it. But I weighed my options and it was not reasonable for me. I was just in Level 200 at the time, and having a child was definitely not in the plans for me.

He refused to speak to me the whole trip after learning that I terminated it, until he returned from the trip and we had a long conversation. He confessed to having slept with his ex because finding out I terminated our baby really got him sad and he needed comfort.

I erred, and it led him to err too, so I forgave him.

We were very okay and everything was going on fine till a few months later. We were taking a Sunday afternoon stroll when his girlfriend just walked into us. She held him by the shoulders, hugged him and tried kissing him in my presence.

“Why have you not been picking my calls?” she asked him. He said he didn’t see the phone and pushed her away. I think he was now conscious that he wasn’t alone.

“So, who is this bitch you are walking with?” she asked. She was now referring to me. He didn’t even correct her when she called me a bitch. He just acknowledged me that I am his girlfriend. It was there and then she started creating a scene, yelling on top of her voice.

“When did we break up? How do you have a girlfriend?” and blah blah. According to her, they never broke up. They had this on-again, off-again relationship, and it was a spice to their relationship. This lady said they had a misunderstanding because he was cheating with me and she caught him.

Meanwhile, my boyfriend himself told me that his ex finally agreed to move on when they went to China together and she read our messages. She finally got convinced that nothing was ever going to happen between them anymore.

Well, the back and forth was so much, so I just stopped a cab, hopped in and left them there to argue. I couldn’t be part of this drama by a roadside where people were passing. A day later, he was in front of my door, apologising and promising that it wouldn’t happen again. I forgave him because at least, he told her in the face that I was his girlfriend.

My problem now is, they’re still doing their business and it makes them still converse. They still argue over little issues, and she insults him, which is a no-no for me. Because he’s a wholesaler, his customers can’t talk to him the way she does, but because they once shared something between them, they see it as normal.

Even at 10pm, she’s either calling or texting. No boundaries.

My partner already has two kids from his past before his immediate ex, and they stay with his sister. But I once saw the eldest child with his ex some days ago and when I confronted him, he said his sister doesn’t close from work early and since the child can’t be left alone in the house, the school bus drops her with his ex and her sister will pick her on her way from work since she lives closer to her ex’s shop.

But I’m not okay with that, and he always feels I’m doing too much. It’s just business and nothing else, according to him.

But even when it comes to business, she gets preferential treatment, and she doesn’t buy from your workers except you. She wants to hear from you before they talk about business. Sometimes, when I come back from school and check his call logs, they’ve spoken for minutes or an hour, and he’ll say it’s about delayed China goods. For one hour?

His baby mama is another issue. Always calling for them to have normal conversations, but when I complain, it’s about their kids. Meanwhile, I read his messages, and they’re talking about what should have happened and what shouldn’t have happened, the plans they had, how her day went, etc.

I feel he doesn’t have boundaries, and it’s breaking me. He finds no wrong in it as well. Because he hasn’t cheated, as he always puts it, then it’s fine.

If tables are turned, will he be okay? Why are there no boundaries? Why can’t your ex buy from your workers when you’re not around? Why does she have to have your private number instead of the business number and call or text you anytime she wants? Why can’t your baby mama have those conversations about her problems and how her day is going with her partner?

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Again, I’m currently pregnant for him, and he wants me to keep it. But I feel it’s a wrong decision if I decide to, with all that’s going on. I feel God will punish me for another abortion, but I don’t want to give him another child without him setting his priorities right and without marriage.

What is the best thing for me to do? Please help me. I’m just 23.

— Deidei

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