Dear Seth,
First of all, thank you for the pain you caused me. My biggest regret is meeting you at a time when I was still healing from the death of my boyfriend. My mistake was opening up to you about that loss. I was vulnerable, and you took advantage of it.
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Because of you, I pushed other men away. The most painful one was a man I fell in love with. He was genuine but I chose you over him. I thought you were the one, because you came to me two years ago when I prayed for a life partner.
You presented yourself as everything I believed I needed: educated, smart, caring, and even responsible. You told me you had a PhD. I found out getting to the end that you lied. Your cousin said he wasn’t even sure you had a first degree.
Oh, you were so good at the games you were playing. You even travelled to meet my parents, introduced yourself as my man, and boldly told them we’d marry soon. I still remember how warmly my parents received you that day, as if you were their own son. You could have left it there but you didn’t. You took money from us, with the promise to help me secure a better job. You looked my old father in the eye, quoted Akan proverbs, and swore you’d never disappoint him. Eii Seth The Scammer!
My instincts warned me. I had dreams that you had a child and another woman, even another family. But I was foolishly in love and ignored all the signs.
I thank God your wife read our chats. The day she called me changed everything. She told me that you got married three months after we met. That means when you were empathising with and professing your undying love for me, you were already preparing for your wedding. Why Seth?
She is not even your first wife. This is your second marriage, and you have a child with each woman. Is this what you do?
All the missing pieces of the puzzle fell into place after my conversation with her. You were very clever. Either that or I was too trusting. Maybe that’s why I easily believed you when you told me, “Sometimes I stay at a woman’s house in the next town to charge my phone and laptop because of inconsistent power supply in the town I work in.”
You even told me she had two kids but you never saw her husband. That lie made me ignore the warning signs.
Your wife was hurt when she found out about me. She told me she caught you cheating before marriage but thought you would change after marrying her.
I should have listened to the other man—the one I pushed aside for you. He kept advising me to leave you. He is a man of God, but I thought he was only saying that because he wanted me for himself. He was right all along.
Sadly, when I went back to him after I learned the truth about you, it was too late. He reminded me of all the mockery and dismissive things I said to him back then. Even my parents told him he came into my life too late, and foolishly, I repeated those words to him. I cannot blame him for not accepting me now.
It’s strange that I met both of you in the same month, and stranger that you two shared the same birth month and even similar names. Fate brought me two men, but I chose the wrong one.
I should have listened to the prophecy. Yes, two prophets told me that two men would come into my life, and I’d lose them both. I never took it seriously, but here I am.
After everything you did, you never once showed remorse. You never apologised when I found out you were married. You never paid back the money you took from my family. You even lied that you had covered half the cost of my supposed job placement because we were together. Where is the job, Seth?
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I blame myself for trusting you, for telling you every secret about my life and my family, and for loving a fraud.
Seth, I have learnt my lesson. I am in pain but I will never curse you. I only write this to vent. Seth, waha me paa! You’ve really messed me up. How would I ever trust any man again?
—Fantasia
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