This story is about my elder brother’s girlfriend. The one he claims he loves. My mom and I are not from the place we are currently staying. My mom has been very ill for some months now, and that is what brought us here, so she can attend her hospital visits. One important thing to note is that the house we are staying in belongs to my aunt, who is not around at the moment.

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So right now, it is myself, my mom, my elder brother, and his girlfriend living here. My elder brother’s girlfriend has left her own home to come join us. She is actually cohabiting with my brother, and I do not think it is right. I am certain it is because she is trying to avoid helping with chores back at her own home.

 

This girlfriend of my brother does not come out of their room when my brother goes to work. She sits and sleeps in there all day and all night, like a new bride. I am the one who has to cook for the family, and even worse, I have to invite her down to get her own food to eat. This whole thing, I know deep within my heart that if I had free will, I would not do it. God knows I would not do that if it were not for my mom.

 

Now, I am going to list a number of things she does that irritate me to the core.

 

Firstly, when we are all in the hall together, with everyone around, she gathers the courage to put her legs on my brother as if they are alone. There is no respect for the elderly. My mom gets uncomfortable when they start doing their thing, and I told her I would talk to my brother about how she feels so they would stop. But my mom does not agree. She says she is not staying here forever, so let her have it.

 

Secondly, anytime she sees my brother and me together, she enters their room and texts him to leave my side and come entertain her. How do I know? I know. Or sometimes, she will just come and sit right where we are having our conversation. My brother and I have great conversations. We talk about geopolitics, family dynamics, and trending issues. We also have a great bond, but this thing the girl is doing is making it difficult.

 

I thought it was just a coincidence the first time and the second, but over time I have realized that it is deliberate. So now, I have distanced myself from my brother. Since he does not see anything wrong with what the girlfriend is doing, I do not want to be a problem in their relationship.

 

My brother serves her when he is around. She does not do their laundry unless he does it with her. He literally does everything for her, to the extent of taking water from the fridge for her. I do not know what kind of love it is they are displaying in front of my mother, with no regard for her. My mom is worried because she thinks it will get worse when they get married.

 

Worst of all, our sick mother is complaining about my brother’s behavior. She has said that my brother does not have time for her anymore. Even when she tries to talk to him about something, he is in a rush to leave the scene. Now it has gotten worse, to the extent that when he is off work, he does not come around to see her, or join her in the room and talk to her for a while before he leaves. I do not have a problem if he does not want to spend time with me, but what about our sick mom?

 

He will be in the room with his girlfriend all day. He does not even eat at the dining table anymore. He takes his food to his room to eat there. It was not like that at first. Is this how people in relationships behave? I did not understand why some women have issues with their sisters in law until recently, when I experienced some things myself.

 

I want to talk to him, but the last time I tried, when I entered the room, he called me out for not acknowledging his woman. Meanwhile, we had already exchanged greetings. He asked me in front of the girl why I did not greet her when I came out of my room. I thought it was not appropriate of him because he could have confronted me privately to ask why I did that.

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Right now, the girl and I are not on talking terms. I feel like he would not take accountability for all this, so I do not see the need to talk to him. Personally, I have moved on from them. But it is because of my mom that I want to consider talking about everything.

 

My mom says that I should let them be, that even the girlfriend can take my brother away if she wills.

—Louisa

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