I’m not someone who goes out a lot. I usually only leave the house when I need to go to the shop to work. When I close, I return straight back home. That was how dull my life was until I met Godi on my way to work one early morning.

He didn’t know my name, nor did ask for it immediately. No, he just went straight to calling me, “My Angel.”

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I tried to walk away after we exchanged pleasantries but he held my hand and said, “Don’t leave, my dear. I want to get to know you better.”

Under normal circumstances, I would have felt uncomfortable at the sudden invasion of my personal space but there was just something about him that made me welcome his touch and presence. I was in a hurry to go and start work for the day yet I stood there and spoke to him for what seemed like forever. Needless to say that we exchanged contacts before parting ways.

As soon as I closed from work and got home, I received a message from him. Then he called. It didn’t feel like we had just met that day. We spent hours on the phone talking about our lives. He told me he had just gotten out of a three-year-old relationship. “My ex cheated on me. That’s why I left her,” he said.

I empathised with him but he said he was fine. “I am ready to move on,” he admitted.

It didn’t take long before he proposed. In that short time, he made me feel so special. That’s why I also didn’t waste time saying yes to him.

When we started dating, he introduced me to everyone in his life. He told them I was his Angel. I believed him. It was because of the way he paid attention to the little things that mattered to me.

There was never a time when I needed him that he didn’t show up for me. Considering the fact that I didn’t have much of a social life before he came along, he became my best friend.

He didn’t have a steady job, and all I had was my hair braiding business. But whenever we had money, we spent our last cents on each other.

The only real problem we had was trust. He was always asking if I had someone else on the side. I would tell him no, and I never lied. I’m a loyal person. I don’t do things to others that I wouldn’t want done to me.

Whenever his insecurities reared their heads, I reassured him that I would never hurt his feelings. “If it will help you feel better, this is the password to my phone. This is the password to my Facebook account too. Feel free to use them as you please.”

I even introduced him to my family and friends so he would know he was my one and only man. Sometimes, it helped. He’d let himself live in the moment. Those moments were our happy times.

Other times, nothing helped. If he asked to see me unannounced and I wasn’t close to home, he would lose his mind. Or if he called and I was too busy to answer the phone, he would start an argument.

“Where were you?”

“What were you doing?”

“Who were you with?”

These are questions that always preceded our fights.

One time, he even accepted a friend request from a guy who liked me in the past although I never dated him. Then he pretended to be me while chatting with him. I don’t know what he was trying to find.

Whenever something triggered his insecurities, he would announce, “Let’s break up.”

Besides the trust issues, he is honestly the best person I know. He always went out of his way just to make me smile.

Now, those smiles are gone. He broke up with me recently. What finally broke the camel’s back? I didn’t answer his calls on time for three days in a row.

Day One: I was braiding someone’s hair outside my shop because I didn’t have electricity. We had to even finish at the girl’s house. I left my phone at home because I knew I wouldn’t be gone for long. The moment I returned and saw his calls, I texted him to call me back.  When he called, I explained why I couldn’t answer the call earlier.

Day Two: My phone was on silent because I was studying. When I saw his call, I called back, but he didn’t answer. Later, when he called again, I asked why he didn’t pick up when I returned his call. He said, “When I call you don’t pick up but you expect me to jump when you call?” I had to explain to him that I wasn’t ignoring him before he calmed down.

Day Three: He called but I was busy. When he called again I picked up but he was angry. “Someone else is taking your time, right? That’s why you are too busy to get the phone these days.”

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I tried to reassure him like I always do. I asked him to have a little faith in me. But he didn’t want to hear it. According to him, he didn’t even know who I was anymore.

“I think I am better off alone. I don’t want to see you anymore.”

I thought he just needed some time to cool off but the next day, he returned the novels I once gave him.

Now, I’m left here asking myself, what could I have done to make things work? I tried all I could but he just didn’t trust me enough to let himself go. Even though he overreacted, I miss him a lot. Do you think there’s a chance that he will come to his senses one day and come back to me?

— Joz

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