My feelings toward my husband have changed drastically since I had our baby. I think I’m falling out of love with him. I don’t know if it’s postpartum depression or if it’s because I am tired from doing all the heavy lifting around here.
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My husband lives with me and the baby, but it’s almost as if he is not here. The only times his presence is felt are when I serve him and he sits at the table to eat dinner I have toiled to make. Also, when we are in bed and he starts touching me in a quest to get laid.
These two things are his only interests at home these days: food and sex. Nothing about child care seems to concern him. He hasn’t helped at all with the baby, not even once.
I have had to stay up alone during all the midnight crying spells. Even the day we got the six-week immunization injection, the baby had a fever, but my husband didn’t come near us.
Sometimes, I feel so drained that I find myself crying when the baby is crying. Do men fear little babies, or what? Even if that’s the case, what about doing other things so I can get some rest?
I know that if my husband were to help with some of the work at home, I wouldn’t be this exhausted. Imagine taking care of a baby full time, and then doing house chores, cooking, washing, and bending. Yet he comes to me at night and demands that I massage him or yield my body to his pleasure.
He does not even appreciate all that I do. If I happen to cook late, he sometimes leaves the food untouched. He won’t even say “thank you.” He rather complains that the food is late.
With all the stress I am experiencing, I have left home. I am currently living with my sister. She is making life easier for me. I don’t even have any interest in going back.
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When he asks when I am coming back home, I just say, “We will be home soon.” I don’t know how to tell him that I have no intention of coming back. I need rest, and I am getting a lot of that at my sister’s place. I feel better physically, emotionally, and mentally. Why should I give that up?
I want to know if my disinterest in going home to a man who burdens me is valid, or if I should be more understanding that men don’t do these things. Will it hurt him if he helps every once in a while?
—Melanie
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Some men do fear hurting the baby. Please communicate with your husband. If you keep quiet how will he know you are suffering? Silence deosnt solve anything neither does violence. When the baby begins to cry you can tell him you are going to the washroom then you give the baby to him to carry. You can be busy in the kitchen then you leave the child with him .
While you are in the kitchen I.e when the little one is asleep you can call him to the kitchen to have a chat whiles at it you will be sending him on little errands. He won’t even notice it.
Maameafua, you have done so well to list a few ways the woman can get her husband involved in her roles at home. In fact, this is what I encourage wives to do—respectfully invite your husbands into your world at home.
I think the writer’s husband is insensitive and selfish. He lacks empathy towards his wife. One way to go about it is the silent approach suggested by Maameafua. Another way is to verbally communicate her need for his help. If he is not one of these ego-driven men who have no empathy and sympathy for their suffering wives, he will definitely listen to her concerns work together.