I would genuinely like to hear from Akan women who are married to Ewe men, also known as No.9 men and whose marriages are going well. I understand that every marriage has its own ups and downs, and I am not looking for perfection, only honest experiences.
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Growing up, I often heard concerns that when Ewe men marry Akan women, some later go on to marry within their own tribe. I have carried this question for a long time, and I want to understand how true or common this really is, based on real lived experiences rather than assumptions or stereotypes.
How are Akan women generally treated in these marriages, especially educated, Christian women? Are their husbands typically generous, supportive, and kind, not only to their wives but also to their wives’ families? Or would you say that these outcomes depend more on individual character and values than on tribal background?
Most importantly, for those whose marriages are working beautifully, what are the key factors that have made it a success? What wisdom can you share that goes beyond the cultural narratives to the heart of building a strong, loving partnership?
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—Ayeyi
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Ayeyi, your concerns are valid, but if your partner is my tribe man kindly engage him on such topics,his response will clear doubts or validate your concerns. This is more of upbringing, geographical location of the individual, cultural background and perception and the religious beliefs of your partner.
Ayeyi, two men are the same except where they grew up, fluences while growing and personal experienced in maturity.
I am Ewe and married to Akwapim. We’d had our issues but honestly if I’m to look outside my marriage tribe will not play a role. In fact, I sought to marry a none ewe to curb the stereotyping I heard while growing up. I tried a Fanti, a Ga and a Ga-Dangbe but the same tag you mentioned followed me everywhere. But each of those ladies are currently married to an Ewe man 😃😃 .
The truth is your concern is valid because my people who intra-family marriage and you’d almost always find someone saying should care for you when you are in the village and some of those gestures result in a “wife” in the village.
Hold you peace, talk to your partner and importantly, very importantly listen attentively to him and his closest relationship.