I met a man in a trotro and collected his number from him. We had a great conversation in the bus, and we happened to alight at the same drop off. I was heading somewhere so I needed to rush, and this man was about to let me go. I didn’t want to just leave it at that, so I took his number, saved it and went my way.

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I texted first, and from there, we grew into friends. The conversation we had on the bus wasn’t the kind you just walk away from. He sounded like a man of valour, my exact kind of man I pray to God for.

I was trying too hard for him to notice me in a romantic way. Either he was too blind to see it, or he didn’t like me, or maybe he was just playing hard to get, but he was just not seeing me how I wanted him to see me. I had a boyfriend at the time, but Bless felt so different that I didn’t mind pushing everything else aside for him. But even that situation, it just dissolved into nothing.

When my boyfriend finally broke up with me, I thought it was going to open a door for something better. For him. But all he offered was comfort, telling me I was going to heal and be fine, that it was just a matter of time. He helped me stand on my feet after that break up, and I was also wishing that he’d used this window to propose to me, but that one too went out of the door. Nothing more. So I left it there and let the friendship burn itself out. I got tired of pursuing him.

But early last year, I got into a long distance relationship with the man I am currently seeing. It was mainly out of loneliness and boredom. I needed someone to talk to, rant to. I don’t like the man that much. The feelings are there, yes, but not too deep.

So in October, I posted one of my ladies’ nightwear pieces that I sell on my WhatsApp status, and Bless texted me. “I want some,” he said. And just like that, everything started again. We texted the whole day. We even played truth or dare. After many truths, I dared him, “Tell me, who do you have the most feelings for in your life right now?” and he said me. He said that all this while, he had been in love with me.

We started dating from there, after he asked me some questions including if I was still single, which I lied to and said yes. The thing is I have been waiting for a man like him for so long, so much. And I didn’t want to lose him this time. Not now that he has fallen on my laps, I needed to grab him and tie him down.

I was planning to end my long distance relationship, but everything was messy in my head, and I kept pushing things forward anyway.

Bless visited me for the first time, returned home and changed totally. All he kept asking was if I was hiding anything from him. Our conversation in the morning begun with it and ended with it.

The second time, he visited me, he went through my SMS chats. It turned out the first time he was around, he linked my WhatsApp to his phone and so he just came around for confirmation.

It got messy that I even called the other guy in his presence to properly end things. But he is still not moving past it.

He said, “You have broken my trust and there is nothing I can do about it.” He also said he cannot start something built on a lie.

I have explained myself over and over, how long I waited to date a man like him, how much this means to me. How breaking up with him will hurt me.

I have been on a pleading spree for months now. I call and text, begging for a second chance, because I like him. I love him so much. Too much. He is smart, gentle, demure. He speaks with such ease and grace, and that softness extends to everyone he meets.

His memories are taunting me. I don’t know how to switch it off.

Some days ago, I called again just to check if there was even a tiny space left. But he is firm in his decision. He will not take me back.

I don’t want to give up on him. I want to say I fought a hard battle and won on our wedding day. But now I am asking myself how to move forward with this. It is affecting my inner peace. I can’t breathe properly in it anymore.

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On the other side, if he will not have me again, I know I will have to learn how to close this chapter and survive the break of it. But I don’t know where to start.

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