The first time I saw Diana was one early morning when I was on my way to work. She was standing in front of a house that was close to my workplace. The ease and comfort with which she stood there indicated that she lived there. There was a graceful disposition about her that caught my attention. She was not particularly pretty but she had a presence. You just couldn’t ignore her. I looked at her that morning thinking, “I am running late but I can’t miss the opportunity to talk to this lady.” So I slowed my steps and spoke to her. “Hi, my name is Andrew. I’d like to get to know you.” I said to her. She smiled at me with a warmth that engulfed my heart. “I am Diana, I am a little busy at the moment so I can’t give you my attention right now.” She responded. It wasn’t a complete shutdown so I asked for her number. Luckily, she gave it to me.

Somewhere around lunchtime on that same day, I texted her. She responded immediately, and the conversation picked up from there. While we were texting, I couldn’t hold back the way she made me feel. “I know we just met this morning, but I like you. I want you to be my girlfriend.” She sent a laughing emoji, followed by “Dude, relax. We don’t even know each other’s favourite colours. Eii, is that how fast some of you rush things these days?” I replied, “I am the kind of man who sees what I want and goes for it. I don’t see any point in beating about the bush. So do you want to be my girlfriend or not?” She didn’t tell me no. She didn’t also say yes. She did the usual thing women do. She told me, “Give me some time to get to know you, then I will think about it and give you an answer soon.”

The fact that she didn’t turn me down flatly gave me hope that she would come to accept my proposal. So I hang in there and we became very good friends. I figured through our friendship she would get to know the kind of man I am and it would help her to decide whether or not she wanted me. One month into our friendship I asked her, “So, have you gotten to know me well enough? Will you give me an answer now?” My lady smiled at me and asked, “What’s the rush? Relax, we just met. I am still getting to know you.” It still wasn’t a no, so I took it as a win.

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I held on to hope and our friendship for another five months. When I didn’t get any answer from her I asked her, “Diana, you have known me for six months now. I am sure by now you know whatever there is to know about me. Surely, you would know by now if I measure up to your standards.” She smiled again at me and said, “Yes, you are right. I have known you for a while now. However, I still need a little time to decide if we are compatible.” I felt she was stringing me along but by then I had fallen completely head over heels in love with her. The thought of walking away from her threatened to rip my heart apart. So I stayed with her. Through my displeasure and my frustration, I stayed by her side as her friend.

A year passed over our friendship, and all this lady could tell me was, “Hold on, I will give you an answer soon.” “Why did I have to go and fall in love with her like this?” I asked myself. All I could do was hope that after all the stretching, she would eventually say yes to me. I held on firmly to that hope for another two years. I didn’t put pressure on her. I just waited patiently for her to give me an answer. Just recently she finally said, “Alright Andrew, I will give you a chance. But take note that we can’t make phone calls. I’m too busy to do that. So we will continue texting, as we have always done.” I wanted to be with her so I agreed to her terms and our relationship began.

Now my problem is, ever since this relationship started our conversations have been monotonous. I have tried to introduce interesting topics for us to discuss and spice up our texts, but she shows zero interest. I asked her why she is holding herself back from me. And all she could say was, “I don’t want to worry anyone with my problems.” She sounded uncertain about us although I have shown her how much I love her. If not for anything at all, the fact that I waited for her for two years should be an indication of my seriousness.

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Just the other day I received an admission letter from one of the top schools in Canada. I’m making preparations to leave as soon as possible, so I plan to include her details in my documents so that she could join me later if not immediately. I also want to give her an amount of GHC10,000 so that she could start a business while I am away. I haven’t told her any of this because I don’t want her behaviour to be influenced by my plans. I want her to love me with genuine enthusiasm but I am not seeing that. So I am asking if it is advisable that I tell her about the plans I have for her, or if I should keep quiet and move on with my life.

–Andrew

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