It looks like my wife married me just to shame her ex, some friends and some people in her family, and the more I think about this, the more I ask myself how the future is going to be for both of us.
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We got married a month ago after dating for less than a year. I met her prepared, and she told me she had no time to waste because of her age and what she had been through with her ex. She was the most helpful woman I’d come across, so I didn’t hesitate to see a wife in her. The only thing that annoyed me about her was her incessant mention of marriage, even when it was clear that we were going to get married.
She made things easier, to be honest. She came through for me financially during the wedding, to prove that she was indeed the helpmate I was looking for.
She started throwing shade with our save-the-date photos. She posted them every morning for two weeks leading up to the wedding, with captions that clearly threw shade.
“They said I was out of date, but today it is save the date.”
“The stone the builders refused is going to wear her wedding gown with pride.”
And then we got married. Since we got married one month ago, she has posted every photo the photographer took and has now started sharing the ones her friends took and sent to her. Each of them comes with subliminal insults meant for someone only she knows.
“They wanted me to wear black and mourn every day, but see me smiling in a snow-white dress. God is not human indeed.”
“It’s only God who knows why I sing praises every morning because He was with me when the enemies were laughing at me.”
“They watch and cry, but I see them and laugh because God is my light.”
One early morning, she was in bed typing on her phone when I said, “Araba, ɛyɛ! Let your enemies rest for just today, I beg you.”
She retorted, “Or you’re one of them? Is your body burning you? You didn’t hear them when they got me, so you won’t understand my praise.”
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It’s been a month, ooo—back to back to back, her enemies are getting slaps left, right, and center every morning on her status. And I’m here thinking, after doing all this, then what? Will this marriage continue the way I anticipated it to be? Because I’ve read the stories before. Once the shades fade and the reason they got married is met, the texture changes, and the marriage becomes decrepit in their eyes. That’s my only fear because eiii.
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Bro,
To make feel heard and respected, create an atmosphere which will make her easily and smoothly tell you about all the wahala “her enemies” had done and said. Let it be natural and how she likes it; dates, gifts, praises, words, acts of service etc. With calmness, tell her how you would want you two to be moving forward. Dont entertain that thought. It will gladly alter how you will feel towards her and ultimately act in the marriage. That may be her reaction to whatever she faced and, to her, its legit she does that. Its may not even about you. Guide her to stop and concentrate about the union.
Signed with love😎