I just read a story on your page about a woman whose husband can’t satisfy her in bed. Her story resonates with me, that’s why I was hurt to see how some people treated it like a joke. Others also said it is not enough reason for divorce. My question is, is it that easy? I have been on earth long enough to learn that, unless you experience certain things, you will never understand how painful and frustrating it is.
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I’ve been married for eight years, and not once have I felt sexually satisfied. My husband and I are staunch Christians. So from the moment we started dating, we established a “No sex before marriage” rule. We stuck to it to the letter of the word.
As I share my story, I regret that decision not to taste it before marriage. It may be the right path for Christians, but if I could turn back the hands of time, I would have fornicated, consequences be damned. At least I’d have known what I was getting into.
My husband lasts about 30 seconds, and that’s it. I’m always left hanging, but he gets his satisfaction. I would lie next to him silently crying myself to sleep while he snores away peacefully.
Oh, he knows he has a problem. We’ve talked about it countless times. He always promises to work on it but refuses to take any medication prescribed to him. I don’t know if he truly cares, because he acts concerned but never puts in any real effort.
I’ve done the research. I’ve shared tips. I’ve recommended solutions. All he has to do is be consistent with implementing them but he doesn’t do it. After all, he gets satisfied, and I’m the one who suffers. What he doesn’t know is that I have considered cheating on him. It is my pride and dignity that get in the way.
I know the only way to help our situation is to get him a solution so I am always reading or hearing about some place or someone who might be our saviour. Once, I forced him to see Dr. Amuzu with me. He took the medications for a while, but eventually stopped.
I’m currently not talking to him because of that. I keep asking myself, “How can someone be so selfish?”
One time I saw his face when he was coming, and I felt a deep wave of resentment toward him. If sexual dissatisfaction is a valid ground for divorce, then maybe I should have taken that step long ago. I have learned that this is not something you can just pray away or pretend isn’t destroying you.
As far as my husband is concerned, life is all about Bible study and prayers. It is why he refuses to learn or try anything new to improve our sex life.
This is the same man I stood by for eight years while he struggled with low sperm count. I pushed him to take his treatment seriously. I argued with him, begged, but he decided to stop the medication, I also gave up.
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I have spent all that time in the marriage yet we haven’t made any progress. Now, I’ve developed fertility issues myself. That’s what’s holding me back from leaving. I feel like if we can’t have kids and I am also having challenges then we should just be together. I don’t even know if I can get pregnant should I try again with someone else.
I feel stuck. In fact, the word is trapped. I don’t know how much longer I can hold on. Is it that easy to file for a divorce based on this issue?
— Rita
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