I’m a born-again Christian who doesn’t want to make a mistake when it comes to choosing the man I would marry. That’s why I still haven’t decided who is best-suited for me among the three men I am talking to: Kwesi, John, and Addo. They all have their amazing sides and their flaws.
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Kwesi is my first love. He was my dream man come to life. He was sweet and attentive to my needs. Everything I know about love, he is the one who taught me. Just as all the lessons I learned about heartbreak were dealt to me by him when he impregnated another woman. That’s how our relationship ended.
When I left him, I tried to find a better man. But the more men came my way the more I learned that the womanising spirit is everywhere. So I reached out to Kwesi and we started talking again. He told me, “I truly love you. I only went for her because you refused to let me touch you. And then the pregnancy happened.”
He wants me to give us another chance. I am considering him because of our history. So now we talk every day. The other day he told me it was easy for me to leave him because he doesn’t have money. I know that’s not true. Just because he is a teacher doesn’t mean he is struggling. He is doing okay for himself, and I am not really concerned about who has money. It’s the person’s kindness that matters.
For instance, John keeps telling me he doesn’t want to spend his money on a woman he hasn’t yet married. He says it as if I have ever asked him for money. He is a pastor yet he is quite stingy. He keeps telling me that he wants a woman who already has her own job.
He’s been acting as if I need to be in tertiary school first before we can take things to the next level. Despite this, I have grown to love him. However, I am worried that I may not be the only woman he is talking to. If I am, then why is he using my educational level and financial status as an excuse not to commit?
All those things won’t happen overnight. I am only 22. I am still figuring out my life. We can be dating while I do that, right? I tried to end whatever we had going on because of his refusal to commit, and he asked me to give him some time to make a decision. So far not much has changed. I have tried to test his willingness to give me money or show up for me financially. He insists he won’t spend on me because we are not yet married.
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Addo seems to be the opposite of John. He is older, 30, and works as a security guard at a supermarket. He loves me a lot, but I don’t feel the same way about him. He is ready to commit if I give him the chance but I am still holding out. All because I see him as someone who doesn’t have a stable career yet.
Mind you, none of these guys has touched me. I have also not spent anyone’s money. I am here because I need help deciding which of the men I should consider for a relationship.
— Lilac
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This is exactly what will happen to a woman/girl who keeps 3 or more men in her life all in the name of LOVE. What do you feel for each of them? What do you want long term? Do any of them know about the others? Does one of them make you feel more deeply connected — like they really “see” you, not just date you? Is there someone among the three that you trust the most?
John, but no man should touch until marriage and don’t bill them.