She has a ten-month-old daughter. She said the father of the child broke up with her even before the child was born. I loved her even before I knew she had a child, and when she told me she had a baby, it didn’t change anything. Love was still love, and care still flowed between us.

I spend some nights with her, and the behavior of her baby makes me feel like there’s another man she knows. She cries when I pick her up. I’m trying to build a relationship, but it’s hard because of how she cries whenever she’s in my hands. When her mother takes her from me, she stops crying immediately and won’t take her eyes off me. She looks at me with a laser focus, as if she’s looking at something she’s not used to seeing.

The same thing happens when she wakes up and sees me in bed with her mother. The look is intense. She won’t blink or look anywhere else. I smile and make funny faces, but she won’t bat an eye. She woke up one late night and saw the action going on, and she burst out crying. She only stopped when I got off her mom and then focused her tiny, innocent eyes on me like I was a danger waiting to happen.

I asked my girlfriend if she was still involved with the child’s father or any man at all, and she said no. “So why is your daughter like this with me?” I asked. She answered, “She’s a baby. What does she know?”

What Will Make You Leave Me After Forty Years Of Marriage?

I’m not comfortable with the way that baby looks at me. It’s as though there’s someone else looking at me through her eyes. She doesn’t blink ooo. She looks at me as if I’m not the one she’s expecting to see. Is this normal? I haven’t lived with a baby before. Isn’t it strange the way she stops everything and focuses on me anytime I’m around? Isn’t that a sign that I’m not the only one and that I’m the least liked among the rest? Or I’m thinking too much?

—Fiifi  

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