Our one-year relationship came to an end during my birthday. He didn’t want to understand me. He wanted me to confess to something I knew nothing about. I said, “Why should I know about something I don’t know anything about?”

He organized the birthday party for me. He initially wanted it to be a surprise, but later told me about it and asked me to invite twenty people. I invited my friends, work colleagues, and people I know from church.

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I even gave him the list of people coming so he would know whom I had invited. On the day of the party, my ex-boyfriend showed up. Apparently, one of my friends had told him, and he decided to show up as a surprise. Even the friend who told him didn’t know he was going to come.

My boyfriend saw my ex-boyfriend, flared up, and left the party. He told a couple of friends he wouldn’t stay there to be disrespected. One of my friends saw the situation and tried to manage it. She asked my ex to leave, and he did. But no matter what I said to my boyfriend, he wouldn’t return to the party.

The party became dull, but it went on anyway without him. My ex sent a message to apologize the next day. I insulted him. I was very blunt and rude to him and later blocked him. My boyfriend had already blocked me before the night ended.

I went to his place to apologize, but he wouldn’t have any of it. He said it was intentional—that I had planned it to embarrass him. I said I didn’t know anything about it. For a whole week, I kept apologizing, but he wouldn’t listen, so I stopped. I decided to give him space and time to reflect.

A few days ago, I saw his call. I was so excited, thinking he was coming around. He said, “I’ve sent you the cost I incurred for the birthday. I need you and your ex-boyfriend to pay me before it gets ugly. I won’t let it go. I can’t pay for my own embarrassment, so you two have to pay.”

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I checked my WhatsApp, and he had sent me a bill of GHC7,500 along with his account details. I took it as a joke, but every morning he calls to ask for his money. He has come to my house, my workplace, and even met me in town just to ask for it. He hates me now and threatens to spiritually retrieve his money from me.

I didn’t ask him for a birthday party. Am I supposed to pay that amount?

—Akosua 

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