I’ve never been the type to demand things from a man. I wasn’t raised that way. If you love me, show it. If you want to give me something, let it come from your heart not because I asked for it. So naturally, since Tony came into my life, I haven’t asked him for anything. Not food, not airtime, not mobile money. Nothing.
FOLLOW US ON WHATSAPP CHANNEL TO RECEIVE ALL STORIES IN YOUR INBOX
He’s present. Supportive. Caring. He calls every morning, checks up if I cough twice, and is always encouraging me. But the problem lies in what he says.
Whenever he compliments me, it comes out like: “You’re the best woman I’ve ever dated. You don’t ask for anything. My ex almost finished my bank account.” Or something along the lines of, “If I hadn’t met you, I’d be poor by now. These days, what woman isn’t materialistic? Except you.”
Every time he says things like that, my heart takes a little offense. Is that really a compliment? Or is it just a thank you for being the cheapest girlfriend on the market?
And the truth is, he doesn’t give willingly, either. No surprise gifts, no chocolates, no “I saw this and thought of you.” Nothing. He gives emotionally, yes but materially, he holds back as if the money itself has threatened him.
And that’s where my fear begins.
What if Tony is with me not because he loves me, but because I’m low maintenance?
What if one day he gets money and suddenly remembers that women who ask for things are also human beings?
What if it’s simply in his character not to give at all?
Are my feelings valid?
Sometimes I wonder if I’m overthinking, but feelings don’t lie. Every time he repeats, “You don’t ask for anything,” something inside me whispers, “Yes, and that’s exactly why he chose you.” Part of me wants to shake him and say, “Tony, you can give small. Nobody will arrest you.”
What Will Happen If You Do It On The First Date?
I don’t know what the future holds, but I do know this: love shouldn’t feel like a discount. And I don’t like feeling like a buy-one-get-one-free promotion.
So I’m asking the house—am I wrong for feeling the way I feel?
—Mabel
This story you just read was sent to us by someone just like you. We know you have a story too. Email it to us at [email protected]. You can also drop your number and we will call you so you tell us your story.
******
Aww🥰
Communication is key, let him understand how you feel it should be and do your part by showing example. Relationship is give and take.
Y cant the Child live with her mum so that you send her, her money and other things she needs
You panicked and left her life. From ANC visit to PNC visits. The midnight cries and silent prayers to have a healthy and normal child. Mr ken don’t try to take that child from her mum. You can perform your responsibilities whiles she’s with her mum. If your wife really loves you then she’ll trust you when you go and visit the girl. Let the girl stay with her mum, period, don’t fight it. The girl will come to you when she’s old enough.
Why would you want to take a child away from her own mother who has single handedly taken care of her all these years? Please provide and visit as often as you can, your child will definitely know you once you are playing your role. Don’t take her source of joy away from her. All what is happening is as a result of the choice you made so accept it and let peace reign, period!
How can Juliet forgive you when you want to take away what you asked her to kill. You think is that easy. First off, you have to compensate her for putting her through all that trauma. Don’t just go and say you are sorry and expect her to give the child to you. And please forget about taking the child away. You can perform all your fatherly duties whiles she stays with her Mom. If your wife needs a child so bad, she should get one for herself.
Bro, at 28 years, you ain’t a boy but a man, and you deserted a lady you’ve been sleeping with thinking there is another man who might be responsible so wrong Senior. You should have step up and later undertake a DNA test if you have doubts. Also if I am a woman, alive and strong, then i won’t allow my daughter to be raised by a step Mom. Guys we should be careful how we treat ladies, especially when they gets pregnant. You didn’t act responsibly well enough.
Women are sacred vessels that God has prepared to bring life in to this world. They are creators in a way. A man that gives his word to a woman and takes it back is not worth his salt. At 28 you haven’t figured your future, yet you slept with a woman without protection and all you could do was to ran away. Your wife who is also a woman and a mother should know and feel the pain of separating a child who is barely three years old from her mother. This is purely selfish and inconsiderate. You can be present in the child’s life in every way until she attains an appreciable age. This generation is a mess without the fear of God.
Seriously speaking, the pastor himself needs deliverance.
Ken, will your wife be happy to let her own child live with another woman? Charley leave Juliet alone. Perform your dad duties and visit as and when you can. Maybe when she’s in her teens, she can spend a few holidays at your end but even that, don’t push it. Allow Juliet and Sika to decide that. This is the price you pay for your sins. You can’t eat your cake and have it. By the way, your side of the story doesn’t even vindicate you in the least. You shouldn’t have shared at all
Silent beads, this is a different story from the earlier one, they are not related in anyway. Can you please check it for me us? We need to hear the man’s side of the story too but obviously this is a story of a woman whose boyfriend sees her as “buy- one-get-one-free”.