I went through my boyfriend’s phone. I was looking through to see how faithful he had been and what was going on in his life that I wasn’t aware of. I didn’t find anything that suggested he was cheating, but the conversation with his mom is what is currently giving me a headache.
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His mom downloaded one of my videos on TikTok, sent it to him, and asked, “So all the women in this world, is she the only one you can see? I will be very mad if you marry this girl.”
I haven’t done anything to her. She sees me and we laugh. I go to visit, and I do my best to be seen as a good woman who can also keep a home. She doesn’t have any problem with me but my looks. She thinks I’m too skinny and ugly for her son.
She continued, “When you left Akos I thought you were going for Miss Universe. Wei? Tweakai.”
These are all voice notes oo, so you can imagine the angst and condescension in her voice while saying all that.
I can swear Akos is not more beautiful than I am. I know her paa. The only thing she has that I don’t have is body and maybe her color. She’s fair, but I like my chocolate color.
My boyfriend didn’t respond to any of these voice notes. Maybe he called her later and they talked. I would have loved to read what my boyfriend said in response. If he defended me. If he said he loved me just the way I am or tried to put his mom right, I wouldn’t be worried by now, but he said nothing beneath those voice notes.
It makes me wonder if I should ask him about it. I know he would ask why I went through his phone, and that may bring a little chaos, but then, I want to know what he said to his mom concerning me so I know what to do going forward.
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Should I ask him about it? Specifically, should I ask him what he said in response to his mom’s insult and what he did to defend me? Or should I just let sleeping dogs lie?
We are very fine, me and him. I believe he loves me because he hasn’t done anything to suggest otherwise, but we are talking about his mom here. Should I be worried?
—Jaspa
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Sweetheart, don’t ask him directly. Try fusing the question into one of your normal conversations. Don’t let him suspect that you went through his phone. Do it that way and let’s see. Aside that be observant.
1. You were snooping just to see whats going on now you know whats up you want to do what with it??
2. You see her you laugh she likes you at that moment and time so what?
3. You and your man are good so what?
4. Are you married yet no so what??
Girl so what if she says you are skinny…so what if you dint snoop qould ypu know what you know now No ypu would continue as if all was well…..Girl continue until God says no…..youre not there to date your mother in law oooo please i beg let sleeping dogs lie. Why bring confusion and anger abput why you were holding his phone??? So what if he said nothing…..being with you is enough defense for the man cut him some slack and dont make him choose through what is going to come out of that mouth of yours.
Dont ask any questions girlfriend
Keep moving
We call it we meuve
Fasten the seatbelt towards marriage in peace and harmony
Keep engaging him and blowing his head with peace of mind and lovely teachings
He ll not yield to mamas misconduct of public funds
You went looking for maggots on a dead body and saw a ghost.
Keep quiet and keep working towards marriage until there’s proof of the otherwise.
Stay in peace knowing that silence is also a response from your boyfriend
The most successful marriages had the most turbulent times but what made them survive was the resolve to make it work by all means unless one’s life is threatened.
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