I’m a mother of two. My husband lives abroad, but he does his best to come home whenever he gets the chance. We are working on some building projects so he likes to be around to see for himself the progress we are making.
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“It won’t be long now, we will finish one building and move in. Landlord wahala will become a thing of the past,” he often says.
He is a focused person. Once he starts something, he doesn’t let anything distract him until he finishes. That’s how I know he’s channelling all his resources into completing the projects.
Even last month, when he came home, he sat down and said, “Now, all our money goes into the buildings we’ve started. So we can’t afford to spend money on anything else, do you understand?”
When I nodded, he added, “This is why you can’t get pregnant right now. I need you to be careful, so that it doesn’t happen.” I understood his reasons and told him not to worry about another baby yet.
I am not on regular birth control because our marriage on long-distance. So I relied on the morning-after pill when we got intimate. Now, I’m finding out that I am pregnant again.
I shared the news with him yesterday over the phone. He was so upset. “We can’t afford another baby right now. I wanted us to finish our projects first before anything like this happens,” he yelled.
I feel ashamed of myself for disappointing him. For a brief moment, I contemplated getting rid of it. But I felt guilty for thinking that way.
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We have two boys already. I keep asking myself, “What if this one turns out to be a girl?” Lord knows how badly I want a girl.
Under normal circumstances, this pregnancy should have been good news. But given the conversation my husband had with me before it happened, I can’t help feeling I have messed up.
I Was Fine Until I Was Alone In My Room
I know he is angry, but he is currently back in the States. Maybe the distance will give him the opportunity to calm down eventually and accept the pregnancy. Or maybe it might make him withdraw from me for God knows how long. I am not sure what to do.
I work as a pupil teacher. Will it be a good idea to keep the pregnancy even if my husband decides not to get involved with child care expenses?
—Dorothy
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If you abort it you will die Just try it and lets see.you want to kill an innocent baby stupid husband. Your project is more important to you than your baby foolish man
It will be a good idea to keep it. You work hence can take Care of the child expenses yourself. He’s upset but his reaction towards it is immature. Remember the Stone the builders reject will always be the corner stone . Don’t allow what he is doing to scare you. If he wanted to avoid another pregnancy he should not have slept with you.
This is crazy, don’t abort the innocent foetus , it’s a sin against God, u know it
just feel free and pray for God’s protection, many of us think we survive only by our wealth and decisions, it’s never possible without God. we neglect God many times in our life but His grace is sufficient on us, don’t take this for granted
Sounds like you’re in an abusive relationship. First, your husband makes pregnancy prevention your sole responsibility like you are the one who would impregnate yourself. Then he throws a tantrum and now you are wondering if you would be able to take of the child’s expenses by yourself..
Are you listening to yourself? It takes two to make a baby. If he was so determined to avoid pregnancy, then he should have invested in condoms or practised abstinence. He doesn’t get to berate you for falling pregnant when he’s the one that slept with you. He’s not the one who’s going to have to push out a baby in the next nine months, he’s not the one who’s going to get fat, or have stretch marks or go through a long and painful labour. So just what in the hell is he whining about?
Why has baby murder been so normalized each time there’s a an unplanned pregnancy? Killing your own blood? God have t. Keep the baby. And learn to fear God. There’s a God who hates murder of the innocent.