He chased me for over a month. I loved his consistency and decided to give him a chance. The very moment I accepted his proposal, he tried to kiss me.

“Chairman, we just started. Won’t you allow some air to pass through for a while?”

He said he was so much in love with me that he couldn’t wait.

The next morning, I asked him for a favor.

“Could you get tested?”

He asked, “Tested for what?”

I said, “All those STDs—you know what I mean.”

He said okay, but his response wasn’t very enthusiastic. I told him I was ready to do the tests with him whenever he was ready. He said he didn’t have the money to do them at the moment, and I assured him that I would pay for both of us.

He picked a Saturday morning and said we should meet at the health facility. I was there at 10:00 a.m. I called his phone, but he didn’t pick up. I texted him to let him know I was there waiting for him.

He texted back, “Oh, so you were serious about this testing thing?”

He assured me he was coming, but several minutes later, when I called his phone again, it had been switched off.

I didn’t call again, and he didn’t contact me for days.

Later, he texted to say he found it strange that I would ask for such a thing at the beginning of our relationship.

“Isn’t it when you’re going for marriage counseling that they ask for all that?”

I responded, “No problem. Come back when you’re ready to start marriage counseling.”

“This girl, paa, you’re not serious,” he said. “We’ve only just started dating, and look at how you’re stressing me. It’s okay. Go your way and let me go mine.”

Just like that, it ended.

Is it weird to ask your partner to get tested? What was he afraid of? He said he loved me, but he couldn’t even take a simple test for me. Wow. Then what was his love really worth?

—Nora 

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