My husband owes people money. A lot of money, and he might lose his job if all the details come out. I sensed it from his behavior and how detached he had become. Even then, it took me a lot of asking before he came clean with me. The only question I asked him was, “What did you do with that money?”

I haven’t seen any change in his life that warrants such debt. He hasn’t bought a new car. He hasn’t bought a flight ticket to vacation outside. He hasn’t bought land. Nothing. Yet he’s owing customers of his company that much money.

“What did you do with the money?” I asked him, and he said, “I might have lost it through transactions. I might have made a mistake somewhere.”

I’m not a kid. If he made a mistake involving that kind of amount all at once, he would have known, or someone somewhere in the business would have been alerted. He’s not telling me the truth. He doesn’t sleep at night. He doesn’t come home early after work, yet he’s the first to leave the house.

A few days ago, he told me he was going to stay with his parents for a while, but I shouldn’t tell anyone his whereabouts. I even got scared. There’s a lot we can do together to find money to pay what he owes, but I’ve told him I won’t get involved until I get to know what he did with the money. He keeps telling me the same story while he runs from his own shadow.

Yes, it’s not easy to raise that amount, but with honesty, hands on the table, and asking for help, we can do something. That also involves opening up to the company to get a payment plan. He doesn’t listen. He’s running instead of telling the truth, so I’ve decided to stay away and be ready for whatever may come.

I Left Him Because He Didn’t Help In The Kitchen

We have kids. When push comes to shove, they’ll need me to be there for them. Is my stand right? Even if he tells me the truth today, it will be hard, but at least we can try. But he’s not ready to tell the truth about what he used the money for.

—Rhoda

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