I was there When Akua met Owusu. The two of us were walking together when Owusu called Akua. I stayed and waited as they talked for several minutes. When Akua returned, she didn’t say anything about the conversation that happened. Two days later, she posted on her WhatsApp status; “Men think they are clever. Instead of going straight to the point, they stop you and tell you they know you from somewhere. Bra, I didn’t know you from anywhere until you saw me and my friend.”
I got to know what happened transpired that day on her status. Anything that happened between her and Owusu afterwards, she kept from me. When Owusu proposed to her, she didn’t tell me. When she said yes to him, she didn’t tell me about it, yet we were together all the time. I got to know these things from mutual friends and they were amazed I didn’t know about it.
I started withdrawing from her because I couldn’t be with a friend who wouldn’t tell me what was going on in her life but was interested in mine. For days, I didn’t call her. I made excuses when we had to go out. I went out with other people and posted about it. She called to ask questions. I told her I was just having fun with other people for a change. She figured something was wrong so she called to talk about it.
I told her what I thought was wrong. I was honest, I didn’t hold back. She apologized and we were back again. Days later, she came to my place with Owusu. She introduced him, “This is the guy who called me and left you standing there for several minutes. He had an agenda and he succeeded.”
I shook hands with Owusu and we hit it off from there. For some reason, Owusu became a friend. He talked to me about their relationship than Akua talked to me about it. Whenever there was a problem, he called to let me in and asked me to speak on his behalf. I did my best. I eventually became their unofficial advisor.
Eight months into their relationship, Akua told me they were getting married. I had a lot of questions but I dropped them at the back of my mind and celebrated with her. I didn’t see it coming but it was a happy news. Days later, Owusu called. He also talked about their marriage with a high level of happiness in his voice. I told him I was happy for them. I disclosed, “Whether you like it or not, I’m going to be your maid of honour and also the godmother of your first child.”
One day, Owusu called asking for financial assistance. He sounded desperate. He said the wedding would be derailed if he didn’t get the assistance. I didn’t promise anything but I told him I was going to help. That very day, I saw Akua. She came bragging about how huge their wedding was going to be and the expensive ring and gown her boyfriend was buying for her. I was confused. If she didn’t tell me all that, I would have told her what Owusu told me. It was like I was being told two different stories.
Owusu came again. I told him what his girlfriend had told me. I asked him, “Does she know about your situation?” He laughed. “Yes she knows. She knows everything and also knows about how we got into this situation in the first place. Maybe she’s only trying to keep up appearances but that doesn’t mean you won’t help.”
He was looking for GHC10,000. I couldn’t raise all that so I gave him GHC6,000. He asked me not to mention it to my friend else I would bruise her ego.
Three months after the wedding, I haven’t received my money though he promised to pay right after the wedding. I’ve called him twice about the money. He would give me assurances but just when those assurances were about to mature, he would call to ask for more time. Owusu paints hardship to me while my friend paints an easy life to me.
After the wedding, Akua told me about their luxurious honeymoon, the places they went within a week, the food they ate and the exotic experiences they both had. Meanwhile, Owusu said they couldn’t afford a honeymoon so they used that one week to travel to his hometown to thank his families who came and also spent some time with his family. I believe Owusu. I know Akua. If they did any of those lavish things she told me they did, I would have seen them on her status.
I know someone is lying to me but it makes me wonder if I should tell her that her husband owes me. I want to tell her not because I want to shame her. I want to let her know, maybe out of pride, she would conjure something from the sky to pay the loan her husband took from me.
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It’s been long. What makes it appear longer is the fact that I don’t know when he’s going to pay what he owes me. He gives me promises but those promises don’t put the money back where it belongs. I want to know. Would it be a good idea to bring her in on the amount her husband owes me? Would it sear our friendship in any way? Would it affect their marriage beyond repairs? I want to know before I make a move.
—Adelaide
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You crossed the line by lending your friend’s husband without her knowledge. Which kind of man borrows money from her girlfriend’s friends? This is a man who has destroyed his friendships with other men. This is man whose relatives cannot lend him money. It says a lot when a man, in his most important occasion, cannot borrow from his friends, family, etc. You will never be paid. If you tell the wife, she will suspect of wanting her man. It is a bad situation you are in.
In my opinion, it wouldn’t be best if you inform her. She’s just trying to cover pain with pride since no one washes their rags and dry it outside. If you admire the friendship and want it to keep going, just ignore the money for the sake of your friendship.
Just like you said, one person is lying and I can boldly say it’s the woman since you said,”you know she’ll post it on her status if it’s true.”.
Thank you.
Don’t let the money go. Why? How can you dash your hard earned money to finance another’s wedding. I sincerely don’t think either Akua or her husband are worth having as friends. I am very sure it was Akua who advised her husband to approach you for the loan. Get tough with him and tell him that if he fails to pay you will inform his wife and get the Police on his case. You need to tell Akua to get the husband to pay you back. If you fail to do this, it will haunt you and your friendship will never be the same.
Do you have text messages informing him to repay the money? You need to keep these as Owusu may deny borrowing any money from you. Plus get a payment plan with him by informing someone close to both him and Akua involved. If Akua hears it from this respected person, then its none of your business.
People must always live within their means. The question I want to ask is, did you get to be the braidsmaid? That detail was omitted from the story.
Are you in a relationship yourself?
What is your home name?