It’s been two years now and I don’t know what we are. That’s because every time I tell him to define the relationship, he tells me he doesn’t like labels. He says, “Putting labels on relationships comes with expectations. Besides, I am not ready to give up my other girls yet. But the moment I tell you that you are my boyfriend, you will expect me to be committed to only you. So let’s enjoy what we have.” He has been singing this tune for as long as he became an important part of my life.
I love him. He says he loves me too. It’s just that he comes from a very poor home. He needed money to further his education. So he started dating women who have enough money to take care of him. That’s how he pays his school fees, buy handouts, and survive in school. I didn’t know this about him when we first met.
He looks like a normal person with a regular past. It wasn’t until we got very close that I realized certain things about him didn’t add up. He was always busy on his phone, and always had places to go whenever we closed from lectures. I thought he was just one of those guys who worked and schooled at the same time.
However, when we started spending a lot of time together I found out he didn’t have a job. He just liked to date rich women for money. Imagine finding out that the man you are in love with is a womanizer and a sex addict. I was very upset for weeks. I didn’t know what to do to get him to stop. He told me; “If I don’t do this, my education will come to an end.” Okay, but why do you need six women?
I am not a rich girl. My family is merely comfortable. Nonetheless, I didn’t want Ben to whore himself out for money. So I offered to assist him financially if he would let go of his women. He agreed. It wasn’t easy for me to get enough to cover my needs but I found a way to share my little with him.
Later I found out that he was still dating two of the women. When I confronted him he said; “Those two women give me the most money so I can’t let them go. Besides, I get shuperu from them.” He swore he was trying to change but his situation made things difficult. I love him so I decided to stand by him and help him overcome his addiction.
I thought if I gave him more money and made myself available to him sexually, he wouldn’t have need for his other women again. I was green. Never been touched by a man but I allowed him to do it with me. I didn’t enjoy it but I kept doing it just to make him happy.
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By and by, he was able to let go of the remaining two ladies. I thought we were done with that phase of his life until I found out that he had replaced the women he left with another set of ladies. The new ones were also six in number. Despite all this, I never judged him. After all, I too used to be addicted to pornography. It took a lot for me to get out of it. I would quit, only to go back to it again. This happened several times until I finally turned away from it. So I was patient with time. I felt he would go back and forth with women before he was finally free of his addiction.
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If I have been able to stick to him till now then he should be able to define our relationship. He just keeps going in circles every time I bring it up. How can I be with a man through all this and not know my position in his life? He still asks for shuperu and money when he needs it. I am beginning to feel that this is all he wants from me. I used to feel his love but I don’t feel it anymore.
He is always telling me that he has plans for both of us. “I want you to be my girlfriend but I can’t commit to you when there are other women in the picture. Just wait for a while.” I have already waited for two years. How long should I wait again? I have asked him to give me an assurance that we will end up together but he refuses to give it.
Should I start praying for him to change? Or I should walk away? Please, I need your advice.
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Please leave him as soon as possible. He will just waste your life. You can pray for him outside of the situationship. Had I known is always at last. Prevent yourself from saying this one day. God be with you
Waaaa see. So ask yourself if you want to spend the rest of your life with such a person. I advise you read about STIs including HIV/AIDS and their complications as well as soul ties. I believe these resources will help you to make your own decisions. PLEASE OWN THE DECISION YOU MAKE.
Aaah some stories dieee hmmm. Let’s start praying for our eggs before they’re fertilize oo😌 this our generation boi .
You are a child of God, as precious to Him as anyone else. Granted, this is your first love, but please get back your God-given pride and dignity, break your own heart and get the hell out of this relationship. Talk to your sister about it; talk to a pastor about it; talk to a good friend about it, talk to a counsellor, but please get out. Since you came here looking for advice, do something with this advice. Look for support, preferably family support, to leave the jigolo behind. Leave the path to damnation.
A man who really wants you , loves you will never hesitate to define your relationship. By hesitating for 2 years he has defined it already young lady. He doesn’t love you. And you are not responsible for saving him or any guy. Focus on bettering your life and forget this guy. Relationships are not compulsory wai.
What kind of love is this? This isn’t love its called foolishness pardon me for being blunt. You see fire yet you keep playing with it, waiting to get burned before you run away. Aren’t you scared for your Health. HIV/ AIDS and other STI’s are real my sister yoooo.
STOP BEING FOOLISH AND START TO REASON.
I don’t understand why most ladies nowadays have little sense in their head.
How can you waste our time reading this silly story?.
Be there wasting your emotion, time, money and body all in the name of love.
If you are not careful you can even contract STD with such a person who has multiple sexual partners.
How can you expect such a person to change and be together with you and have a smooth life?.
Mission impossible because he enjoys what is he doing.
Until he is remorseful and be willing to change his attitude and mindset not even pray can save him.
My dear run for your life and stop wasting your life away.