Because of our financial situation, my girlfriend of three years and I decided that instead of her going to tertiary school, we would both focus on getting her into the Fire Service. We believed that once she got in, she would have a stable income while figuring out what she wanted to do with her education later.

We spent money whenever we had to, and we did everything the “connection man” asked us to do, hoping it would work out. Unfortunately, nothing came of it, so we accepted our loss and moved on

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At the same time, we were trying to fix her menstrual cycle, which was badly irregular. Sometimes she could go months without seeing it, and when it finally came, it was always a terrible experience for her. We went from one hospital to another, saw specialists, prayed to God, and tried every treatment we were given, but nothing seemed to work.

It started taking a toll on me too, and I couldn’t stop asking myself difficult questions. What if we never had children, and what would our future look like? Would I ever become a father? Those thoughts stayed with me for a long time because I was scared she might never be able to give me a child.

People around us also started talking. After three years together, friends kept asking why she hadn’t gotten pregnant yet, and some even nicknamed us Reverend Brother and Reverend Sister because they assumed we were waiting until marriage before having children.

A few months ago, we found another herbal clinic and decided to give it one more try. Just like before, we were given plenty of medications and instructions to follow. Around that same time, recruitment into the Fire Service was announced again, so we decided this would be our last attempt. She applied and, a few weeks ago, she was invited to write the aptitude test.

Then life surprised us.

She is pregnant.

At first, we thought it was malaria because she wasn’t feeling well, and I was at work when she called to tell me the hospital had confirmed she was pregnant. I didn’t even know whether to celebrate or cry.

The very blessing we had prayed for all these years had finally arrived, but instead of bringing us nothing but joy, it left us confused and heartbroken.

There is another reason why this pregnancy means so much to us.

I lost both my parents. My father passed away years ago, and I lost my mother just last year. A few days before we found out about the pregnancy, my mother-in-law had a strange dream. She had never met my late mother before, but in the dream, a woman introduced herself as my mother. She was holding the hand of a little boy and said she had brought him for her daughter, my girlfriend.

When my mother-in-law told us about the dream, we all laughed because it sounded impossible. She had never met my mother, so how could she possibly dream about her? Three days later, my girlfriend went to the hospital and found out she was pregnant.

Since then, that dream has refused to leave our minds.

We keep wondering if this child is somehow a special gift from my late mother. The thought of terminating this pregnancy just so she can continue with the recruitment honestly scares us. At the same time, if she keeps the pregnancy, she could lose an opportunity we have both fought so hard for over the years.

From what we understand, recruitment is done in batches. We don’t know which batch she has been placed in, but I keep praying she will be in the third or fourth batch because if that happens, maybe there will still be enough time for her to keep the pregnancy and report when her batch is finally called.

The irony of life isn’t lost on us during this time. We have been praying and hoping for a child and her job in the Fire Service, only for both to come coinciding with each other. This same thing we have been praying for is another reason we can’t sleep, and it is a very difficult decision to make.

I want us both to win.

I want to become a father, and I also want to see the woman I love succeed. She has endured years of disappointment, humiliation, and ridicule because of her health struggles, and I know how much this opportunity means to her.

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I honestly don’t know what to do. I just pray that somehow, God makes a way for us to keep this child and still not lose the opportunity we have waited so long for.

—Moses
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