For a while now I have been struggling to get it up when I try to get intimate with my girlfriend. Meanwhile, when I am with other women I find attractive, my thing works. Now before you judge me, let me give you some context.
We’ve been together for three years now. She is the woman I planned to spend the rest of my life with. Even though she is two years older than me, she treated me with utmost respect. That was one of the things I found attractive about her.
I had this friend I worked at the same place. He was one of the people in my life I introduced my girlfriend to. And I was happy when they seemed to get along quite well.
As innocent as I was, when my girlfriend started changing I never tied it to my friend. Then we got into a fight one day and my girl started disrespecting me. She called me all sorts of names. This had never happened before.
That very day she told me she was sleeping with Eke, my friend from work. For some reason, I didn’t take her seriously. I thought it was something she said only to hurt my feelings.
Unfortunately, that was the first of many such fights. I can’t even list all the things I have endured in the name of our relationship.
Every little misunderstanding that happens, she body shames me and tells me, “It is this your terrible behaviour that pushed me to sleep with your friend.” She has said this so many times that I don’t doubt her anymore.
Unfortunately, Eke is no longer in my life. We no longer work together and he has cut me off. So I can’t even ask him if she is telling me the truth. I just have to take her word for it.

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With everything happening, I don’t have any desire for her anymore. My heart still wants her but when we are together I don’t feel anything sexual toward her. Even when we are not fighting, my thing doesn’t respond to her presence or her touch.
I know I am fine because I still get my morning wood. Also, when I am around other women I find attractive, my member responds to them with a salute. So why can’t I get it working when I am with the woman I love? What does this mean?

—Chinedu

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