My wife’s junior sister came to live with us after SHS. I thought it was just a visit but by the time I realized, she was living with us permanently. She isn’t somebody I talk to or play with or engage in any way. She would say good morning and I’ll respond. Sometimes she would serve my food or ask what I would eat. I don’t hate her or hate her presence but there’s nothing to talk about with her.
We go to work in the morning and leave the whole house to her. We don’t have children she will take care of, so she eats, watches movies, and sleeps while we are away.
All of a sudden, I heard my wife and her sister speaking in an undertone. They would be talking and quickly stop when they see me coming. I wondered but didn’t let it bother me. One night my wife told me her sister was pregnant and she had been pressing her to mention the name of the one who got her pregnant but the girl was not saying anything.
She expected me to be shocked or act in a certain way which I didn’t because I’d always suspected that girl was up to something. I told my wife, “Don’t push her too much. Give her space. She’ll come clean when she wants to.”
My wife’s response was “Or you know something about it? She’s not talking but you’re telling me not to push her. Is there something you know that I don’t know?”
“What do you mean?” I asked.
“I mean what I mean. You’re a man. If it’s you say it so we know what to do before it gets out of hand.”
Her sister later mentioned the guy’s name. A guy she goes to church with. She went to the guy’s house to cause a scene. The guy accepted responsibility.
My problem is how easily my wife suspected me. It hurts more when she doesn’t want to accept her mistake. I don’t think I will forgive. A husband should be doing something wrong for a wife to suspect him this way. And the fact that I was the first person she suspected makes me see how low she thinks of me when it comes to cheating.
When I tried registering my displeasure she said, “As if it’s impossible. Don’t we hear such stories all the time?”
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I don’t deserve such disrespect but she doesn’t see anything wrong with her assertion. I don’t back down easily so I will pay back. I will wait until we get pregnant and ask her, “Who did you sleep with to get pregnant?” I will make a scene, call for DNA and later tell her, “As if it’s impossible. Don’t we hear such stories all the time?”
I hope she enjoys it as much as she dished it out to me.
— Kaylu
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My brother what you are planning will come back and bite you in the ass. The worse will be your wife will divorce you. It hurts but doesn’t make it hurt less when you have decided to embark on a journey of no return. Please let things be. Have a word with your wife and ask what she has heard for her to think lowly of you. If possible invite in someone she respect. Forgive just as God Forgives us.
communicate your feelings, if necessary with the help of a respected someone.. You can not blame her entirely given that there is bad news of that nature all around. reassure frequently- you are more than enough for me. it might help calm her fears
Remember to send the story when it happens.
There’s no need for that, even though the way she said it was wrong, she’s not entirely wrong. I mean we always hear everyone saying all men cheat, or all men blah blah blah. Besides you were the closest man to the girl, so of course, you’d be the first person on her list. But yes, this proves there’s not enough trust in your marriage, for your wife to jump to conclusions without any evidence.
Kaylu, to start with, I’ve read all the comments on this and I can only say maybe most just read without understanding or probably wanted to just type in something.
Maame Efua, Efy and Ruva I believe are women so they won’t understand the kind of disrespect this is.
Recall Ed’s comment, “Remember to send the story when it happens”
Only a man can relate this because they know how insulting this is and to think of even approaching the issue to talk about it only to be told that, it’s a follow up insult
I mean how many people bring about issues affecting them for a couple to talk about.
This is gross disrespect. Some like to learn the hard way.
let her