I am married but I’m no longer with my husband. I don’t want to be with him anymore. I have a new man who is everything I want. Although he is 25 years older than me, he treats me with utmost respect. He wants to marry me. I have agreed to his proposal. We would have been married by now if it were not for my family.

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When I left my husband, I asked them to accompany me to see his family and return his drinks. They refused. They kept holding out hope that I would change my mind and return to him. Only God knows the things I endured at the hands of Luke in the name of marriage.

We have three children together, but he has two other children outside the marriage. According to him, he never loved the woman. The pregnancies just happened. I was hurt when I found out but I decided to let it go and stay with him for the sake of the children. I believe that was my mistake.

When a man knows he can get away with disrespecting you, you are finished. What didn’t he do to me? He started talking to me as if I was less human than him. When I tried to stand up for myself he beat me up. When I complained about his extramarital affairs, I received beatings.

They say men disrespect you when you don’t add any value to their life. It’s not true in my case. I work and contribute financially to our family. Even when he decided to build us a house, I added my money to his. After we moved into the new place, he started acting as if he did it all alone. He told me at the slightest provocation to pack my things and leave.

The last thing that finally drove me out happened in September last year. I heard rumours that he was going to marry another woman. If it was his baby mama, I wouldn’t have been so surprised. But this woman is someone entirely new. I wasn’t happy about it.

When I confronted him he told me, “This is my house. If you have a problem with me bringing in another woman, you can leave.”

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I thought he was joking, but he meant business. I didn’t talk too much. I had just gotten tired of all of it. No more fighting. No more holding on. I didn’t have that kind of strength anymore. I just packed my bags, carried my children and moved out.

I wanted to give him the freedom to marry his new woman. That’s why I asked my family to help me dissolve our marriage. They didn’t do it so I focused on taking care of my children. While I was doing my best to heal and move on, he came for two of our children, insisting they would live with him. I don’t know if he was trying to hurt me or if it was a manipulative attempt to get me back, but I didn’t fight him. I let him have them.

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Now that he has heard that I have someone new, he is refusing to let me be. He comes to my place, begging me to take him back. He even cries. He says he didn’t marry the other woman, so I should come back home.

I am not interested. The way my new man treats me makes me feel like a princess. I don’t want to lose him. How do I proceed with the dissolution of my marriage without my family’s support?

—Irene

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