We were doing well until she had to move away to her village. This changed the dynamics of our relationship. We became a long-distance couple even though we didn’t start out that way. The beginning stages were hard but we were determined to keep the relationship alive. We made frequent phone calls and texted each other constantly to try and compensate for the time we wouldn’t get to spend together.

She is a good woman. She has stuck with me through thick and thin. There was a time when I was down financially. As a man, this affected me greatly. I felt I didn’t deserve to have a woman by my side when I had nothing to offer her. However, she didn’t make me feel less of a man. “When I say I love you, I don’t mean it only when things are rosy. In good times and in bad times, I love you,” she told me.

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She didn’t only say it. She proved it with her actions. She encouraged me constantly. And when things got really bad, she gave me money. Sometimes she would cook for me. Anything I needed, I just had to ask, and she would give it to me willingly. Even when I felt I was taking too much from her, she never complained. There were times I looked at her and asked myself, “What did I do to deserve her? She is too good for me.”

Honestly, I have never envisioned a life she wouldn’t be a part of. Even when we had issues, I always knew we would work through them. There was even another man in her life but I didn’t worry that he would take her away from me.

This guy had been chasing my woman for years but she didn’t accept his proposal. For the entire three years we’ve been together, this guy kept coming up. Sometimes he would call her. Other times he would send text messages. There was nothing suspicious about their interactions but they made me uncomfortable all the same.

When I complained, she told me; “You have nothing to worry about. He is just a friend.” It was hard to accept that a man who made it clear he wanted her would be content with being just a friend but I trusted her. So I let it go. Little did I know that this same guy would later become a source of great pain to me.

When she moved to her village, she asked me to visit her but I couldn’t. I assured her that I would make the trip in due time but I haven’t gotten the chance to do that.

Over the Christmas holidays, my girlfriend came to tell me that she was pregnant. Obviously, it wasn’t mine. I asked her who the father was and guess who? The same guy she told me not to worry about. The very one who had been chasing her for years.

She said it happened only once. “It was a mistake babe,” she pleaded, “I was lonely and he was close. I regret my decision.” I didn’t care if it was a mistake. I didn’t care why she did it. The only thing I cared about was how broken I felt. I never imagined she would look at another man, let alone cheat.

She said she still loved me but I told her, “It doesn’t matter. I can’t marry you again.” I tried to end the relationship but she wouldn’t let go. “What if I get rid of the pregnancy? Will you forgive me and take me back?” I answered yes, and I meant it.

Nonetheless, her family already found out about the pregnancy, and they refused to let her terminate it. As much as I was willing to forgive her, I had to let her go if she was going to have another man’s baby. Thus, our relationship ended

I was nursing my broken heart when she called me a few weeks later and said, “Something tragic happened. I had a miscarriage. The baby is gone now so will you take me back?” Honestly, I was in so much pain that I didn’t want to. But this is a woman who has done so much for me. Even when her family told her I was not good enough for her, she didn’t listen. She stood against them and fought for our love.

Her loyalty was what made me decide to give her a second chance. Besides, she said it was partly my fault. “If you had come to see me when I asked you to, none of this would have happened.” I understand that I should have visited her but she lives in Douala while I live in Yaoundé. So the distance made it difficult for me to make the trip.

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Anyway, it doesn’t matter whose fault it was. I still love her and I know she loves me too. It’s just unfortunate that things are not the same anymore. Yes, we are trying to make things work but we don’t talk like we used to. I feel like her actions have created a distance between us.

Other times, I feel she is the one who has changed her mind about being with me. I am saying this because her calls and text messages have become inconsistent. I’ve prayed about this many times. I have asked God to show me a sign if we’re not meant to be together.

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Strangely, every time I pray, she’s the first to call or text me the next morning. This has happened so many times that it feels like a sign from God that we were meant to be.

However, I don’t know how I can move past her betrayal. Plus, there is still a distance between us. Is she going to cheat again the next time she asks me to visit her and I don’t? All these things are giving me trust issues. I know she is a good woman but how do I convince my heart to fully embrace her again? If you were in my shoes what would you do?

— Pedro

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