A man called me beautiful and I fell in love with him. We talked every day and texted some nights. We talked about our respective spouses. He had been married for ten years but I’ve been married half the years he had been married. I have two kids but he doesn’t have kids. He told me the problem was with the wife but they’ve come to accept their fate.
The ones you talk to every day become the ones you fall in love with. He fell in love with me and proposed. I asked about the terms of the relationship and he said, “You’re beautiful to me and I love you. That’s all I know for now. Let’s see where it goes from here.”
I was intrigued so I accepted.
When he made love with his wife and he told me about it, I got jealous and told him he was cheating on me. To hurt him back, I would have sex with my husband and tell him about it. We hadn’t met after the proposal but we were hurting each other.
We don’t live in the same town. I have to travel three hours to where he lives. Some days I wish I could sleep with him but traveling all those hours to do it makes me feel like a whore. I want it to happen in a way I would say it happened by accident but traveling all that long doesn’t look like an accident to me. He said he would look for a reason to come and see me so I’m waiting.
We’ve been doing this for the last six months. We usually don’t know what people love us for but this man tells me the reason he loves me every day and what he loves about me. I asked my husband, “What do you love about me?” His answer was, “Don’t ask me childish questions. If you don’t know, am I the one to tell you?”
My husband makes it easier for me to compare him to this man; each time I compare, he falls short. He’s a quarter of the man my boyfriend is. Currently, we haven’t done anything. None of us is pushing to have intimacy.
I know it’s wrong but all I wish for right now is for my husband to do half of the things this man does to me or say a quarter of it.
I love to be affirmed. I love to be complimented. I love to be told sweet things. It makes my head swell and my heart twirl. I didn’t even know I loved these things until this man started doing them for me. Now I’m hooked like the way a junkie is hooked to drugs. Lovey-dovey things are addictive. Once you get them, you want more but my husband…gosh, he won’t lift a finger if that’s all he has to do to make me happy.
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How do I change that? If I had a man who did what this man is doing to me emotionally, I would not need this new man. I want my husband to do something. At this point, I’m sounding petty but I’m still a girl who is in love with being lovey-dovey. Can I change my husband? Or I should just pray for grace to leave this new man and be ready to starve myself from all that’s lovely.
—Shirley
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Witch.
Focus on ur husband and try new things with him, u r a woman so u should know what to do to attract ur husband physically and emotionally to spicy up ur marriage and bedroom . U can find what ur husband likes best when it comes to being with u and also in the bedroom. U can ask things he likes best or what makes him happy when u r with or u can search it out online and try new thimgs to spicy up ur marriage and leave the other man cos u dont know what going on in his marriage i mean the devil u know is better the angel u dont know. Wise up woman and fix ur home or else another woman will take it
wicked woman
Every man has a love language. Get to understand your husband’s love language and you will realise he has been doing worth 4 times what your so called boyfriend is doing to affirm his love for you.
All this so called boyfriend of yours is doing is to get what is between your legs. Once he gets his way with you, all the compliments and the affirmations will cease.
Focus on building your young marriage and home. Otherwise if you focus on this boyfriend of yours, you’ll soon find out you have neglected your husband by which time it will to late.
Girl, the path you are journeying on is the sure psth to the wrecking of your marriage and your home.
Cut ties with this boyfriend now before it’s too late.
Do you also tell your husband sweet things, do you make him feel special, do you tell him how much you appreciate his hard work?
Just as women want to be told sweet things, men also want same.
What you are doing with someone’s husband is unethical and not right before God. I suggest you stop and focus on how to make your marriage what you have been wishing for.
One thing I learnt over the years is that never ever trust a woman who compares other men to their boyfriend/husband and once a woman starts messing around, never trust the words that comes out of their mouth. They are dangerous and desperate. You want to hear sweet words from your husband, have you been doing the same thing? Have you been heaping praises on him for being a good husband and father to your kids? Are you lacking anything? Is he cheating like you’ve been doing? Wanna know something? The only thing still saving you right now is that your boyfriend is 3hrs away cos if he was closer, let’s say 30min/1hr he would light up your coochie and eat you up like a kid eat his cookies and cake. Once he gets his way with you, I am so sure all the compliments and the affirmations will cease or reduce. You folks are always loved by what we men tell you while we are moved by what we see. What if your lover boy has been feeding you with lies? What if he’s just a sweet talker and that’s how he operates. Yes, women love to hear those sweet words and compliments from the opposite sex. Fix your home/marriage, I know you won’t leave that guy anytime soon but I am sure the road you’re threading has no rainbow.
Are you normal?
Your boyfriend does not have anything to do to “show” love other than empty words. It is so easy to act right for a man when he is not paying bill, taking care of your kids, and leading the family. Once your so called boyfriend gets his way, and you get caught by your husband, that is when you will know there was no love in the first place. I would never want to be married to a woman who compares me to other men, and gives them our family secrets so that the men can say how I am useless. Unless you protect your husband, he will be abused and discredited by your lovers to please you.
My sister, you better focus on your marriage before you lose both men and bring the repercussions on your children. If you think that man is romantic enough, he would even have eyes to see you while his wife is there? Wait until you satisfy his sexual pleasures and see if he’s still romantic. By that time, it will be too late for you to have wished that it never happened. Being complimented and affirmed with sweet words are not enough to sustain a marriage. If your husband discharges his responsibilities, he should be enough for you. It’s better you block the man in all means he can reach you and that lustful desire will leave you with time. Don’t forget to pray as well. God be with you.