My husband and I got married 3 years ago, and we dated for 2 years before that. I never went through his phone even though I knew his password because I trusted him completely; from my head to my toe, I trusted this man with everything in me.

Some days after our first wedding anniversary, I needed to send a document from his phone to mine. When I took his phone, a message came through and caught my attention. After sending my document, I opened the message and found out that my husband had cheated on me with his colleague.

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I was a few weeks pregnant at the time and already dealing with complications, so this news broke me completely. I had to focus on my pregnancy because it was risky, but my heart was shattered. My husband blamed it on alcohol and said there was nothing more between them, and we both blamed it on the devil because he always spoke against cheating.

Around that same time, I read another chat between him and his ex where he told her that marrying me was a mistake. He said it was just a joke because of how things ended between them, so I let it go.

I thought he would change his ways and guard his boundaries to avoid this happening again, and I wanted him to watch his closeness with female colleagues and friends. I believed this could help us fix whatever broke my trust in him. But he still keeps contact with his exes and other female friends, has deep conversations with them, and sends videos of himself to them while they send videos back.

He keeps messaging random women on social media and comments on sexy pictures on TikTok too.

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Last year, he did something that made me suspicious again, so I took his phone. This time, I found a deleted screenshot in his gallery where he was asking a lady to choose between him and another guy. When I confronted him, his problem was why I went through his phone in the first place. He got defensive and said it was a prank he did for a male colleague, but it never made sense to me. Why would a married man with no intentions to cheat do this, even as a prank?

I told him to stop talking to these women because it’s embarrassing that a married man constantly tries to talk to other women, claiming they’re just friends. He didn’t stop right away but kept talking to them and deleting their chats afterward. He told me he deletes them on purpose because it makes him angry when I go through his phone, and he does it so I know he deleted them.

Anytime I notice he’s getting too close to a woman, especially colleagues and exes, I remind him about boundaries, and this always leads to big fights. He gets verbally abusive when this topic comes up.

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On three different occasions, he has told me he’s not happy in this marriage because I keep going through his phone. I reminded him that he broke my trust and never helped me heal from it. He told me I broke my own heart by going through his phone and that there’s nothing broken between us. He says we have a perfect marriage, but I’m allowing Satan to use me to ruin our happiness.

This keeps me wondering if I’m really the problem here. Even though he broke my trust, I have kept this relationship going, but I don’t trust him on a deeper level anymore.

I’m asking again: is there something wrong with me? Shouldn’t he help me heal from the pain he caused?

Please tell me the truth. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

—Aframa

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