We’d dated for a year. All of a sudden, he told me his family had chosen a woman for him to marry. I was sad. I was even broken. I asked what he was going to do about it, whether he was going to choose me, but he said, “I have to at least pretend to date her so my family will know I didn’t reject her. But it’s you I want.”

I told him to choose because I couldn’t stand the thought of sharing him. He asked me to give him time to think about it.

We still met while he was thinking about it. We talked every day, and we did what lovers do. A week later, I asked if he had made up his mind. He said I should give him a few more days, only for him to call me one evening to tell me that he had already slept with the lady his parents had chosen for him, and now he was confused.

It felt like a stab to my heart. I told him I wasn’t confused, so if she was the one he wanted, then he should go for her. He came to my place the next day, apologizing, and told me I shouldn’t make matters complicated because I was the one he truly loved.

He tried to lure me into the dark corners of my emotions, but I said no. I was ready to let him go once he had chosen the other lady. He comes here begging. He says that even if I don’t get intimate with him again, he understands, but I shouldn’t let him go.

I Called My Girlfriend And Another Man Answered The Phone

I agreed that nothing would happen between us again until he made a decision. But I’m also thinking about the whole thing, and it makes me feel like a fool for entertaining him. He comes around with sweet words, but I don’t know what he does when he disappears over the horizon.

He had been a good boyfriend until he started talking about this woman his family wants him to marry. I’m hoping he’ll end up choosing me, but his confusion is also confusing me. How long should I wait?

—Jane

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