I’m in a wheelchair. This gentleman helped me at church once, and we became friends. After talking for a while, he expressed interest in me, and I accepted it. I was down for whatever he wanted out of the relationship, so I didn’t have any problems doing things to make him happy.

The first day I went to his house, everything showed he wanted it. I didn’t fight him. I allowed him to have his way the way he wanted. Afterwards, he asked me, “Oh, you’re not a virgin?”

The next thing, he started avoiding me.

I thought hitting a milestone like this would bring us closer, but it didn’t. He wouldn’t pick up my calls or respond to my texts. He would be online posting on his status but wouldn’t text back. When he came to church, he sat far from me. As soon as church ended, he disappeared.

When we finally talked, he said he was shocked that I wasn’t “green and sealed.” As in, he was surprised that a girl like me, sitting in a wheelchair, hadn’t stayed untouched but instead had been with someone else.

The fact that I wasn’t who he thought I was shocked him out of the relationship. We lasted only six months.

The thing is, we were friends before love entered the frame. He used to help me get around in church, and I loved it. I’m not asking for too much. I told him, “I will understand if you say it’s over, but must you stop helping me when we come to church?”

I Accepted His Proposal When I Hadn’t Met Him Physically

Leaving me doesn’t hurt as much as the way he treats me now—so cold, as if we were never friends or anything.

He passes me by even when I’m stuck at the stairs. Yes, sometimes I intentionally stay there and wait for him to see if he would help, but he just passes by as if I don’t exist.

I haven’t been to church for a while now because of the way he treats me. Is it too much to ask for a helping hand from my ex?

— Sophie

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