My dad died six years ago, but when he was alive he had this friend he went places with. Everyone in the family knew him as Dad’s best friend, and at some point, he became a family friend. Since my dad died, I hadn’t heard much of him until I bumped into him recently. He was obviously happy to see me and even gave me money. He has a lot of money currently.
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This Christmas, he asked me to visit him and get a few things for myself and my mom. I got to his house and he went straight to the point: he wanted to date me and hopefully marry me. I was shocked, but I kept my cool, trying my best to deflect the conversation. He insisted and asked me to tell him how I felt.
He’s fifty-seven years old. I’ll be thirty in January. That’s a twenty-seven-year age gap. I respectfully asked for time to think about it. And to get him off his balance, I intentionally added, “I would like to know my mom’s opinion before saying yes.” He responded gleefully, “Yeah, that’s a great idea. I believe your mom will understand.”
I came home, told my mom about it, and she started singing songs of praise, happy that the man had proposed to me. She said, “Your dad’s sweat contributed to this man’s wealth today. It’s only right that we also benefit.”
Her happiness shocked me, but her reason behind it made me ask myself a lot of questions. Like, “So I should date him not for love but because my dad contributed to his wealth?”
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As I indicated earlier, he’s way older than me, but because of his money, he’s been able to keep himself very well. He already has four children with his ex-wife, and they’ve been divorced for five years. I don’t love him, but I don’t mind being with him because of his money. That’s me being honest.
Now, my question is: Is it a good idea to start a relationship with my dad’s friend? That aside, will he see through my intention that I’m only with him because of his money? I’m not a good actor, but in this situation, I can only try. Or is it possible love will grow as we go along?
—Jullie
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Pls we should stop misusing words, sleeping with men is not dating or relationship.
Happy new year!
You love money so you’re going for it and definitely you have not think of the consequence it follows which might ruin your life forever. You hate the tree but you want to eat it’s fruit,wise up cos your future is fat more better than his money you want to enjoy
At thirty, you can focus and build your dreams. For him to propose marriageito his late friend’s daughter speaks a lot about his character. Marriage goes beyond money. This is not right by any standard.
There’s nothing wrong for a friend to marry a friend’s daughter. What’s wrong is to play and have fun with a friend’s daughter.
Israel is right but the age difference is significant and do you know what led to his divorce? Moreover you admitted that you don’t love him but only considering due to his money. These are salient issues you really have to consider. All the best.