My relationship feels like a room where only one light is on. Mine.

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I have been with a man for some time now. He has a steady job and receives a pay cheque every month. I, on the other hand, have been without work for five months. Yet, in a twist that confuses me, when he needs money for his personal wants, he turns to me. He asks for a loan from someone who has no income. I do not know where his salary goes. There is a closed door around his finances, and it makes me feel shut out.

His favorite thing is for me to come to his home. I go, hoping for to be loved. But when I go there, I end up buying the food. I pay for groceries and soap and things. I cook. I clean. I take care of everything. Then, when it is time for me to go home, he does not help me. Not even with transport money.

The thing that frustrates me most is this: we sit and plan business ideas together. But when it is time to bring money, he will not add one penny. He expects me to fund it all. He knows I have no job right now.

I am becoming fed up. This relationship does not feel balanced. I believe in 50-50. But it seems he is getting more than me. When he needs help, I show up. When I need support, he does not show up for me.

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Right now, I feel used and confused. I am starting to ask myself: is it worth staying in a relationship where the effort is only from one side?

—Paulina

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