I’ve dated my girlfriend for less than a year and I’ve met her best friend only twice. The first was on her birthday and my girlfriend asked me to attend the birthday with her. It was a busy birthday with many people in attendance. I sat in my corner because I didn’t know anyone around. Later in the night, before we left the place, my girlfriend brought her friend and introduced her to me.

“Wendy, meet Derrick. Derrick, meet my best friend forever.”

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We all burst out laughing. I shook her hand and hugged her for a few seconds and that was it.

The second time wasn’t even a meeting. We happened to accidentally meet in a store and she came to say hello to me in the car. That was all, but this girl has become the reason my girlfriend is having doubts about our relationship.

I’m a very frank person. They say the truth hurts but not me. The truth is healing to me once I know it’s the truth you’re saying. It doesn’t matter how you say it or how you throw it at me. So right from the onset of our relationship, I told my girlfriend to tell me everything no matter how hard it sounded to her.

We started this relationship with a kiss and kissed a lot. I would go close for a peck and she would end up kissing me. It got to a point where the kisses went dry, like we were in a harmattan. I would go close to her and she would turn away. Even during intimate moments, she wouldn’t take my lips no matter how many times I threw them at her.

I asked her questions about it and her answer was, “Sometimes I’m not in the mood to kiss, especially when I don’t feel confident about myself.”

I wasn’t complaining. I told her confidence or no confidence, she should try her best and give it to me and I would take it. Yeah, sometimes she did but it didn’t last for long. Well, it’s part of the package of what we call a relationship. Sometimes, people may change but you only have to give them time and they will come around.

So one evening we were together when a message dropped on her phone from her best friend. She asked, “Girl, where are you? Or you’re with Chalick?”

“Who is Chalick?” My interest was piqued. If your girlfriend’s friend mentions another man’s name, you should be worried. So I decided I was going to find out. When she came and picked up her phone and saw the message, she smiled first before opening it to respond. I was looking at her.

When she slept, I set out to find who Chalick was. I only read a few lines of their messages to realize I was the Chalick. Actually, it wasn’t Chalick. She wrote “Gallic” but I misread it as Chalick. My girlfriend had responded, “Where else could I be?”

I went back to their messages to understand why they were calling me Gallic when my name is Derrick. According to my girlfriend’s best friend, I had mouth odor and my mouth smelled like I had eaten garlic not long ago.

I was like, “Me? Or are they talking about something else?”

I blew air into my palm and smelled it to see if it was true. I didn’t smell anything. It was my girlfriend’s contribution to the chat that broke my heart.

Her friend asked her, “So how are you able to kiss him with all this smell?”

She responded, “All because of love ooo. I manage but I don’t do it often. These days koraa, I swerve when he brings his head close to me.”

It’s not the words of strangers that hurt. It’s always the words that come from people you live with and are very close to. For close to a year, she hadn’t told me that my mouth smelled, even if it was true.

So in the morning, I asked her, “You don’t kiss me because my mouth smells?”

She said, “Why are you asking me this question when I have already told you why?”

I asked again, “You don’t kiss me because my mouth smells like garlic? Even to the extent that you and your friend call me Gallic instead of Derrick?”

Her face dropped. She said it was just for the fun of it and it wasn’t that deep. That made it even worse for me.

“Who makes fun of someone they love? Even if that was the case, why haven’t you told me all this while but rather laughed about it with a friend? You don’t love me that much.”

She has apologized and promised to do better. I have also gone to the dentist to do some cleaning, though I never thought I had that odor they described.

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But the thing is, we are no longer the same people in love. I have forgiven her but I don’t like her friend and want her to do without her. She brought up all this conversation and laughed at me first.

I can’t tell her to leave her friend. I feel it’s too much to ask, so I want to rather leave her so she can have her friend without any interference.

Am I doing too much if I let her go?

—Derrick

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