I was dating three women. To me, it wasn’t anything bad. I was trying to observe their character so I could choose the one I would eventually marry: Alice, Georgina, and Frema. Georgina was the first to come into the picture, then Alice, and later Frema.

Along the line, Frema started asking about marriage. She was the last to come into the picture but the first to talk about marriage. She said I had everything going for me, so she didn’t understand why I was still dating her after two years. I gave her hope but never gave a timeline. I loved her, just as I loved the other two. It was hard for me to decide.

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They all had something the others didn’t have, and all those things were important to me. Frema later left the relationship when she found another guy. I was hurt. I fought to get her back, but she didn’t listen. I was left with Alice and Georgina. I decided to act fast before I lost either of them.

I was settling on Alice, but I wished she could cook like Georgina and care like Frema. Alice was very independent. She didn’t show much love or care, but whenever you needed her, she was there. When you didn’t need her, she stayed away from you. I loved that about her, but I wished she could learn to cook and show a little more care.

On Alice’s birthday, I was with her when Georgina called. I couldn’t pick up the call, but she later texted that she had been admitted to the hospital. I started chatting with her on the phone and told her I would pass by to see her, not knowing Alice was watching me the whole time as I looked disturbed and distracted.

That night, she went through my phone and read the messages. She even went as far as reading the messages between me and Frema. Typical Alice, she didn’t ask any questions. When I left and was with Georgina, she sent a breakup message followed by all the screenshots she had taken. My balance was affected immediately.

I was with Georgina while going through the nastiest breakup of my life. I was texting Alice, begging her not to make a decision until at least we talked. She replied, “It’s OK. Be with her since she’s the one you want.”

And then she blocked me.

Georgina kept asking, “Are you OK?” I would give a fake smile and say, “Oh, I’m fine.” She might have noticed something was wrong because from that day, she started keeping a close eye on me. She called constantly, asking where I was. She came to my place unannounced. She was doing everything possible to catch me off guard, but she was all I had left.

I told myself that maybe the other two had left because God wanted me to focus on Georgina. I dedicated all my energy to building something with her from scratch.

A few months later, Frema texted me. It started as a casual conversation about life and other things. We chatted until 1 a.m. Suddenly, Georgina texted, “I thought you were sleeping, so who are you chatting with at this time?”

That annoyed me, and I asked her who she was chatting with that made her see me online. That small issue grew into something much bigger than I had expected. We didn’t speak for days. When I tried to make peace, she told me it was over.

I asked, “Eiii, why? What’s happening?”

Nothing I said could bring her back. She said she was fed up. She had suspected me for a long time, and my actions only confirmed her suspicions.

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Just like that, I lost all three women. I tried getting Frema back again, but it didn’t work. The woman I’m currently dating now is a money-wasting machine. She asks for money for everything she does—even breathing.

“Can you send me something small? I can’t breathe.”

Maybe she’s my karma. Or maybe she’s what God has sent my way to teach me the value of the good women I lost while trying to sample too many options. It’s hard, but the lesson is well learned. I believe I will find a better woman again someday.

—Sam Tuga

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