I’m dating my friend’s father. It’s a financial decision that I’m not proud of, but it’s a means to an end.
She’s my classmate. She brought me home to live with her because it was hard for me to pay my hostel fees. It’s a big house she lives in with her parents, but I shared a room with her.
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I noticed the way her father looked at me and realized it wasn’t normal. When he got my number, the texts he sent me were flirtatious. I saw where it was going. I didn’t have the power to stop it without ruining everything, so I let it go on and on until one evening, when I was in the bathroom, he entered.
He had told me he would do it, and I’d begged him not to. But he came while his wife was outside of the house. I suspect he planned to get her out of the house to be able to do what he did. I whispered, “That’s dangerous. What if someone walks in on us?” He replied, “Who can? No one is around.”
To get him off my back and also avoid being caught, I did what he wanted me to do, and that began a relationship that has lasted for a little over a year.
He gives me what I ask for. He pays my fees and has currently gotten me a hostel. I have only one year left before I leave school. He has promised me a job right after school so I can take care of myself.
But day in and day out, I look at my friend and what I’m doing to her and feel so bad. She smiles genuinely and throws good things my way, but whatever I give back feels dirty and unclean because of what I’m doing with her father.
Her mother—may God bless that woman—I’ve never seen a woman this motherly. I’ve left her house, but she cooks and gives the food to my friend to bring to me in the hostel.
“Why are you this evil?”
I’m looking in the mirror and asking my reflection this question.
Why can’t I just cut the cord and say, “No, I’m no longer doing this because of my friend and the relationship I have with your wife?”
The last time I built up the courage to tell him to leave me alone, the school asked us to buy a material I didn’t have the money to pay for. I told myself, “Let me get this one and leave him afterwards.”
I haven’t been able to leave him.
I’m in a place where I feel I’m going to receive the reward threefold in the future. I might marry and my husband would be community property, or my daughter would turn even more wayward than me. I’m counting my sins and naming them one by one so in the future when I start experiencing bad things in my life, I will look back and say, “I deserve it.”
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When that day comes, I won’t even pray and ask God to take my troubles away. I will go through it silently and painfully so I can experience the pain I put a friend and her mother through.
I have one more fee to pay. I hope that once that is out of the way, I will have the courage to walk away. But I doubt it. The flesh is that weak.
—Cynthia
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Your situation is not enviable. Because you are basically ‘selling’ yourself. But please the very moment you are in a position to stop, do that and ask God for forgiveness. God works in mysterious ways, when it comes to forgiveness and punishment. Don’t think you know what He plans for you. Don’t let the man use the job to string you along.
Please put a stop to it. Turn to God and He will forgive you and provide all your need.
Peace!
Congratulations. And i say this because, yes, you feel guilty, but you will not stop.
There will always be something you will need so you will always tell yourself you have a valid reason to do this.
Karma is a bitch they say.
Once you have braced yourself to bitch it up, congratulations once again and all the best.
Procrastination kill sometimes. You might be using this sole opportunity to gain what you want but that’s wrong. Report him to your friend please.
Put a stop to it. Ask God to forgive you and forgive yourself also.
I was 18 years when a set of white garment prophet came to our street,I don’t use to believe them like that because of some past experience,the prophet point at me that throughout that month I should not sex any lady,that it’s dangerous for me,I ignore it and I paid for it, there’s this young girl I have been talking to the girl but was posting me,the lady now came on the last day of that month,my cousin remind me of the prophecy I ignore it,I fuck the girl so hard like 3 round in different position,a month later she came that she miss her period,I sent her away,I said on outing cannot lead to pregnancy that is 1994,
She left and I never set my eye on her,after that I paid dearly all my business venture I ran at lost for straight three years,until my mind flashed back I trace her address,as she sight me she was crying,she started telling how she was trying to terminate the pregnancy with pills and she start blessing and she stood on the blood and place curse on me,and I was like disaster going somewhere to happen,I beg her and we reconcile and my life boom again ,I have learn my lesson