She had just completed high school and was at home waiting for her results when I came into her life. She had plans of pursuing higher education but money was a problem. In the beginning stages of our relationship, I was just there offering her emotional support. As time went on, I got to know her better. Every time she revealed a new side of herself to me, I fell deeper in love with her. She happens to be one of those people you can’t help but love.
What I even loved more about her was the fact that she was hardworking. While she stayed at home, she started a small business to support herself. One of her concerns was that she wouldn’t be able to afford tuition for tertiary school. “My parents say there’s no money,” she would tell me, “does that mean I am going to be an SHS leaver? How will I get a job with a high school certificate in this country?” Every time she complained I told her, “Why are you worried about school fees when we haven’t seen your results yet? Relax!”
Thankfully, when her results were released we were not disappointed. She did exceptionally well. “Now that we know you’ve passed what do you want to do?” I asked her. She shrugged and said, “If I get teacher training college I will go, but once again, where is the money?” I spoke to her mother and asked her to inform her husband about their daughter’s college dreams. “Please, tell him that whatever money your family is able to gather, I will top up so we can send your daughter to school.” She assured me they would do their best.
As discussed, her parents raised whatever they could afford and I also added mine to it. We paid her fees in full and bought all the items on the prospectus. When she was scheduled to report to school I was the one who drove her there. That was how much I was invested in her.
Although she is twenty-four and currently in her third year in school, I am thirty-one and financially independent enough for marriage. My lady has proven to me that she is also ready to settle down with me. So I have started buying the items on her marriage list.
Throughout our relationship, I never questioned her loyalty. She treats me with utmost respect and gives me her full attention whenever we are together. Even when we are apart, she never gave me any reason to wonder if there is another man in her life. The only thing that could sound alarm bells in my ears is the way she puts passwords on her phone and some of her apps. Even with that, it wasn’t so suspicious that I would attempt to go through her phone.
They say we can’t trust humans but I trusted this lady beyond reasonable doubt. I don’t know what got into me but before she left for school last week, I got curious and hacked her WhatsApp. I didn’t do it because I thought she was hiding something. I just wanted to prove to myself that she was indeed, a faithful woman.
Unfortunately, I only ended up proving myself wrong. The things I found in her chats left me speechless. My lady has been flirting with different men. Some of them went beyond flirtation. These guys would ask my girlfriend about her relationship status and she would say, “I am not married.” When they propose a romantic relationship to her, she accepts it.
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There was a particular guy she told me was just a friend. In their chat he was asking her why their last intimacy was different. He said he had been okay since they did it and that she might have an infection. “This is unusual of you because you are always neat down there. So what happened the last time? To be safe, you should go to the hospital for check up,” he advised her.
I have been so down since I saw the chats. I haven’t had the courage to talk to her for the past four days because of this. She has been calling me but I don’t pick up. She even called me with different numbers but I have ignored all those calls too.
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What am I going to do now? This is someone I was planning to marry next year if all our plans fall into place. What do I do with the items I already bought for the ceremony? I know I can’t ignore her forever. Our families are too involved in our relationship for me to do that.
This is why I need all the help I can get? What do I do? Should I tell her what I saw and give her the opportunity to explain herself? Is there even hope for our relationship after everything I have seen? I need to hear your thoughts on this before I make a move.
—Mumin
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Bro confront her calmly. After that if she confesses and you can find it in your heart to forgive her so be it. Then let her run an STDS test. Any ways your girlfriend said the truth she is not married to you but that doesn’t mean she should cheat on you. You avoiding her won’t do anything but rather take the bull by its horn. Don’t let anger cloud your judgement. We all have done something we are not proud of but what matters is that we are willing to learn and rise from where we are fallen. And if you can’t forgive her then let her go . As for the items you can sell them and gain your money. Open communication is the key to a good relationship. Good luck
Confront her and ask her for space, a woman of that kind can’t be a wife. If you dare enter into this thing called marriage then you are dead, let her go. Don’t think about the commitment and investment, someone has also invested in a different person who can be your life partner
Personally, I believe in my instincts more than reasons. Your spirit man was telling you something hence the restlessness in your spirit to check and hacked her WhatsApp to uncover the rots. Most at times, the solutions are always ahead of the problem but we foolishly and obstinately ignore and carry on. Marriage won’t change her, and don’t ever think you’re growing so you should be desperate and carry on with the marriage plan. A tip of what can kill you in future and makes you mad has been shown to you. Think about it bro!
Communication is the key to every successful relationship. Just confront her and let her know you’re aware of whatever she’s been doing.
If she’s ready to change for the better then fine, if not you give her space. But for the iterms I don’t think selling it will be the best option unless you plan never to get married. It is well Bro.
I am afraid her red flags are crimson red, too red to ignore. And no matter how much you wash it the red will stay. She’s having unprotected sex? And with multiple partners? She has contracted an infection and infected one of her sexual partners. This is beyond emotional! You very life is at stake here and you risk STIs yourself. Quickly get checked out and take necessary precautions. The most important precaution is to immediately dump this cheat. Your life is worth more than what you have invested in her so please don’t dwell on that. Bro, keep safe
Take a screenshot of the chat as an evidence.
Forgot about what you have invested on her and let her go
Personally, I believe in my instincts more than reasons. Your spirit man was telling you something hence the restlessness in your spirit to check and hacked her WhatsApp to uncover the rots. Most at times, the solutions are always ahead of the problem but we foolishly and obstinately ignore and carry on. Marriage won’t change her, and don’t ever think you’re growing so you should be desperate and carry on with the marriage plan. A tip of what can kill you in future and makes you mad has been shown to you. Think about it bro!
Paa Kwesi said it all
Even if I ask you to forgive her and continue with her which will be my biggest lie to any human being, You cannot forgive her. Just forget the relationship and let her go
I know it hurts
You will be fine