If you’re living in Tarkwa, please I need help. How do I break away from a bedianko spell?

I came to Tarkwa to do my national service last year in one of the mining companies here. I was a total stranger and didn’t know anywhere in Tarkwa. In the evenings, I would try to take a walk around the vicinity, and on one of those walks, I came across this Indomie seller. I walked to her table and asked her to serve me.

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She was overly nice to me and told me, “Please come again tomorrow. I will do you fine.” So the next day I was there, and the next, and the next. Each time I went there, she treated me like royalty. I started developing feelings for her—the kind of feeling that says, “Oh, she’s available. Eat some and leave.”

I took her number and we started talking during the day. Through our conversations, I got to know she had a six-year-old son. She said she had him with a miner, but they couldn’t marry because the man was already married. I expressed my interest by inviting her to come and visit me. She said, “I hope when I come, nothing will happen.”

I promised nothing would happen, but when she came over, she was so receptive to every touch and responded accordingly. By the time I realized, things had already happened and we were dressing up. Mission accomplished—but it didn’t end there. I always told myself it was the last time, but it kept happening and happening, and now it’s been over a year and it’s still happening.

When I’m alone, I know I don’t like her that much to be entertaining her this way. But when we are together, sparks fly and I forget everything. When I travel out of town, I’m restless until I return and see her face. She brings me Indomie for free, and if I ask her to cook, she cooks. On Sundays she doesn’t work, so she brings her son over and does some chores for me.

After my service, I was retained. I’ve rented a new place, and this girl is trying to convince me to move in with her and her son. For some strange reason, I can’t tell her that I don’t like the idea. My friends say she has placed a juju called bedianko on me—meaning I’ve eaten it, so I’m stuck with her forever.

At first, I thought it was a joke. But when I track my decisions when it comes to her, nothing makes sense. It’s like I’m acting outside my will. I see it, but I still can’t do anything about it. She’s not the class of person I would like to settle with. She has near-zero education and doesn’t carry herself in the way I would expect from my wife. I’m not trying to insult her.

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I’ve been praying very hard these days. When she’s here, she prays with me. But nothing is working. I learned that bedianko isn’t easy to break unless I get an indigenous person to help. So I’m placing it here: if you’re an indigene of Tarkwa and you know how to break bedianko, please help me before I marry what I don’t want to take home.

—Adjei

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