My boyfriend recently made a bet with his friends, after telling them he would always choose me over them because he is my priority. They dared him to send me a message pretending he was in trouble, just to see if I would call immediately, to prove that indeed, I prioritise him over everything. 

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The truth is, I never received those “trouble” messages at all. I even showed him screenshots to see for himself that the messages didn’t come. That’s why I felt hurt when he held on to his disappointment even though I didn’t even get the messages in the first place?

After everything I said, I went online and saw his post saying that his girlfriend had disappointed and embarrassed him. I apologised about five times and even called, him. He told me he wasn’t in the mood to talk.

I reminded him that he knows I always take his issues seriously—that was the very reason he bet on me with confidence.

“So if, because of this one incident, you decide to believe I don’t prioritise you, then I can’t do anything about it.”

“Maybe,” that was all he had to say. It didn’t make sense to me but I chose to let it slide.

Not long ago, he said he would like to change his phone. He couldn’t afford the entire cost so I offered to support him financially. But after the incident with the bet, his tune changed. When I asked him which number to send the money to, he responded, “I don’t want to hurt you.” I interpreted it as he no longer wanted my money.

“Your behavior these days have been hurtful,” I told him. After all, I’ve always been there for him. If out of 100 times, I disappoint him just once, it’s unfair for him to act like I don’t care.

Once again, he refused to communicate like an adult. He chose to be petty with his response, telling me, “I’ve heard, do whatever you want then.”

That hurt even more, so I stopped talking to him.

The next morning, he called to check up on me, but I could tell it wasn’t genuine. After the call, he texted, “Good morning, since you don’t care about me and don’t wanna mind me.”

Meanwhile, I was the one who texted him last, and when he called earlier that morning, I even answered his call on the first ring while I was half asleep. So what exactly did he want from me? I felt he was being unnecessarily dramatic so I ignored that message to avoid another misunderstanding.

During the day he sent me another message, “Don’t send the money you want to give me for the phone to my number. Send it to this number instead…” Then he added the number.

The way he asked for the money wasn’t polite at all—as if the money was his. I decided to stoop to his level and be petty. I told him, “I have already used part of the money. Do you wanted me to give you what’s left?”

He said no, and that I should keep it. After that I responded with a thumbs up emoji, “👍.” He also texted back with the same emoji, “👍.”

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Although we were not talking he went about posting silly things on his status.

“I dey see my body pass.”

“The peace that comes with being alone makes you forget some people.”

“Fuck love.”

These are some of the things he posted in attempts to trigger me. I ignored all of it. Two days after realising I didn’t react to his posts, he texted me, “Hi, I’m hungry.”

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I found his entitlement insulting. I chose to ignore him once again because I’ve already entertained too much of his excesses. My silence worked. He deleted the message two hours later, when I didn’t respond.

As I am writing this story, he keeps posting things to nurse his ego. I know my silence and indifference are bruising his pride but I don’t care anymore. I’ve always been the one begging to make things right even when I’m not wrong. I’ve had enough. As long as I know I’m not in the wrong, I don’t mind letting him go.

—Allice

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