When we started talking, the first thing he said that caught my attention was, “A woman like you deserves a submissive man.” I laughed over it because I thought he was being cheesy. Then he repeated it in a way that sounded like he was serious about it.
I see him as a kind man. He listens and is very considerate. He’s always helping me with something. Sometimes I think of it as those things men do when they want to get you to be their girlfriend. The campaign period where milk and honey are thrown at you. But with this man, it looks like there’s more to it.
“I don’t mind doing your laundry”
“I don’t mind taking care of the kids while you are on the sofa.”
“I’m a submissive man and I wouldn’t mind submitting to your orders.
“Just send me. Just tell me what to do and I’ll gladly do it.”
These are some of the things he said to back up his claim of submissiveness. So I asked, “Are you looking for a woman who’ll provide for you so you do all that?” He answered, “Not at all but I believe in treating my woman right so I can have the best out of her.”
These claims make me uneasy. We’ve been at it for the past three months but anytime I want to give him a chance, something tells me to wait. So recently, I asked him, “What if you catch me cheating on you, what would be your reaction?”
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“I will forgive you but we’ll talk about it. If you like the next guy so much, you can just do it but don’t let me see it.”
Please, is this guy being real with me or he’s just trying to get me with these flowery promises so he changes them later when he’d gotten me?
— Francisca
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Run that is a man who will frustrate you to tears.
If I were you I would give it a try. He is unique. He was brought up this way so there is nothing you can do about it. He is supportive. Besides I agree with what he said . He is giving you an olive branch . He is not a red flag. He knows what he wants . Don’t allow your doubts to win. You women kraa what at all do you want? If you get the typical man you will say bue. Then if you get the soft kind too you are saying he is a red flag. He isjust the man that believes in giving his all. If you have doubts sit him down. Look at his actions not his words. Pray about it . You may never know till you try.
Run oooh Run. This type of man cannot help make you a better woman. A sissy man will pretend to give you all the freedom but you will eventually have your eyes opened to see that true love set healthy boundaries. If he does not communicate these boundaries from the start and allow you to run amok, you will eventually resent yourself after the community start talking behind your back. Unless you are an alpha female who is looking for a beta male to dominate, this relationship will not last. Why will he want to reverse the gender roles in your future household? Is he closeted? Run sister run.
Give it a try,these kind of guys are rare .he won’t frustrate u.i’ve a guy in my life like that whenever he talks to me he adds “pls”.