A guy said hello to me on Messenger. I quickly did a search on his profile to see where I knew him from. We were friends on Facebook but I didn’t know him personally, neither had we had any interactions on Facebook. I said hi and conversation ensued.

Normally guys who come to my DM talk to me like I’m under investigation and they are the investigators. Only questions and answers but this guy was different. I liked something about him. His depth of issues and how he made jokes. Three days later he asked for my number. I declined. I told him I didn’t know him that much to give him my number. He wasn’t angry. He came around every day and we talked.

Some days he insisted on having my number. I told him I didn’t know his mission yet. He said, “Friends.” I told him we could be friends on Messenger too. “Isn’t it fun the way we are here? Why don’t we keep it that way?” A little over a month later, I gave him my number. He called. Calls became dates and dates turned to I love you. Not from me but from him.

By this time, I knew him enough and could assign a character to his face and actions. I said yes. We’ve been dating for about a month now. Nothing serious. We go out. He visits. I visit too. The farthest we’ve gone is a kiss.

Days ago he confessed, “I didn’t love you like that from the start. My intention was to punish you for playing hard to get. You gave me ‘crown’ when I asked for your contact. It was hard to swallow the L so I pushed. I’m glad I didn’t stop. Now I love you for real.”

This doesn’t make me feel good. He thought it was a compliment but I don’t see it like that. I thought we built what we had from scratch not knowing he had a different agenda. It makes me feel like what we have won’t last. I want to walk away. I’ve already typed the breakup message. I want to know if I will be right to send it.

–Faiza

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