The only argument Abi and I used to have was about my spending habits. I like to buy things on the whim while she likes to draw a budget and stick to it. So every time she sees me with a new pair of sneakers or clothes she would ask, “How much did that cost you? Was it within this month’s budget?” Every answer I gave would turn into a heated argument. But it wasn’t something that would tear us apart. Abi is smart and resourceful. When we started dating she set up a shop for herself and I was so impressed with her efforts that I invested in it. Who better to trust with my money than a girl who draws a tighter budget than she draws eyebrows?

Apart from our arguments about money, everything about our relationship was almost perfect. She has this positive outlook on life that infects everything she touches. Everything she sees is a business opportunity or an opportunity to make an impact. At first, I was surprised that someone as young as her could be so ambitious. But the more I got to know her the more I understood her. Being ambitious isn’t a luxury for her. It’s a need, that drives her to take action rather than just sit around and daydream. She didn’t come from money so her goal is to make sure that her children do. When Abi was in SHS, she sold charcoal, and airtime to support herself. When I got to know this about her, I fell deeper in love with her.

She is also the type of person you want by your side when your world falls apart. I remember how she stood by my side when I lost my dad. Well, to better put it, she stood by my mother’s side. She was with her through everything. When my mother was too overwhelmed with grief to do certain things, Abi stood in for her and got them done. She planned, organized, and made sure everything was where they were supposed to be for my father’s funeral. This was even shortly after we started dating. My mother fell in love with her during that period. They became as thick as thieves from that moment.

When the funeral and grieving subsided, Abi asked my mother, “Why are the shops in front of the house empty? You should either sell something in them or rent them out. Anything is better than letting them sit and collect dust.” Yes, she is very straightforward regardless of whom she is talking to. And that’s one thing we all love about her. My mother engaged in a series of conversations with her, and before long, she set up an ECG prepaid shop and a Mobile Money shop. Surprisingly, both businesses are doing very well. Because of this, no one in my family takes Abi for granted, especially my mother. It even became an inside joke, “If you mess with Abi, you’ve messed with big mama.” People outside our family sometimes think she is related to us, because of how close we all are.

I really had it good with Abi until she went to school. I don’t know if it was the devil or loneliness. But I made a mess of things when I started talking to a girl Abi brought to work for my family. They went to SHS together, so she vouched for her. This girl, her name is Ruth. She was the one who first started getting close to me. I shouldn’t have allowed it but I did. I recall how she seized the slightest opportunity to say awful things about Abi. I knew she was lying so I should have shut her down and stopped talking to her that instant but I didn’t. And now I am in tears as I write this.

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I never dated this Ruth girl. We just used to talk, that was it. Then one day I went to a party and came home drunk. I was texting her the entire time I was there because she kept asking me where I was. “Isn’t it late? You should go home.” If I was sober, I would have known something was up. But I didn’t and walked straight into a trap. I say that because, when I got home Ruth was in bed. How she got there, I don’t know. Why she was there, I don’t know either. Most importantly, I don’t remember what happened after I got home. I only woke up the next morning and saw her lying naked beside me. I started panicking while hoping nothing happened between us. But my hopes were dashed when I saw blood on the sheets. I didn’t need anyone to tell me I had deflowered her.

I felt bad and guilty. The first thing I said to her was, “I am sorry for what happened between us last night. It wasn’t meant to happen. You know I am with Abi. I love her and I cannot afford to lose her.” Her response was, “You broke my virginity so if you don’t marry me, I will curse you with my blood.” I was shocked she would say that. How could she expect me to marry her when we weren’t even in a relationship? I tried to keep what happened between us a secret and find a way to handle her, but my mother caught wind of it. The first thing she did was to get Ruth to take the morning-after pill so we wouldn’t have to deal with any case of unwanted pregnancy. After that, she paid Ruth her salary and fired her.

That should have been the end of everything but somehow, the news of Ruth getting fired got to Abi. Abi was devastated on her friend’s behalf. She called my mother to plead with her so she would take Ruth back. So my mother told her that I cheated on her with Ruth. All hell broke loose after that. Abi forgave me but Ruth constantly held the issue of cursing me over my head. “Nii, if you don’t do this for me, I will curse you.” “Call Abi and insult her, if not I will curse you.” This is how she used the threat of cursing me to manipulate me and ruin my relationship with Abi.

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Apart from that, she went about insulting and harassing Abi. Everywhere she saw Abi, she would pick a fight with her. It was so bad that Abi couldn’t take it anymore. Although she forgave me for cheating on her, she grew tired of the constant harassment. Before all of this started, my family had presented drinks to her family in preparation for our marriage. But now they have returned the drinks. Abi said she is done with me. I am heartbroken, and so is my mum. We are both unable to get over her. Everyone in my family needs her as much as I do. She is on this platform so I hope she sees this. Abi, please I am sorry. I don’t know how to live my life without you. Please come back to us.

–Nii   

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