I have been dating this beautiful lady for the past three years. We all live in the same neighbourhood. I live with my parents and she used to live with her aunt, but now she has moved in with her friend. Akos and I were friends for a long time before we started dating. The connection was always there but we were all shy so no one made a move. It was when she was in SHS 2 and I had completed SHS that we finally gravitated toward each other. Our friendship evolved into a romantic relationship as we fell deeply in love.

Our relationship was all rosy, but our lives weren’t. Akos had to put a pause on her education and stay home for a little while to search for a job. By then I was already hustling at Circle. So sometimes she joined me and we hustled together. In return I supported her with the little money I could gather so would go back to school and at least complete SHS. Before she completed school she had an ex who was pestering her. This guy was always calling her, visiting her, and doing everything possible to get Akos back. We talked about him and she assured me that she wouldn’t go back to him.

Later, Akos confessed to me that the guy had his way with her. I asked her, “What do you mean? Did he force you?” She said, “No, I did it willingly. I didn’t mean to do it. It just happened, I am sorry. I promise you that it won’t happen again.” I was very hurt even though I was her first. But I understood that sometimes people falter in their ways, and so I forgave her and we moved past it. Everything was going on well peacefully until the next year. She faltered again. This time it wasn’t with her relentless ex-boyfriend. It was with another guy. And I was once again hurt by the woman I love.

They say if you love someone you do everything to make peace with them, even if it hurts. So I brushed off what she did for a second time, and we moved on with our relationship. Then she started working at a shop in her neighbourhood. I thought that would keep her occupied, but it only gave her time to always complain that I didn’t have time for her. I tried to explain to her, “We used to spend a lot of time together when we were working together. But now it’s just me at the shop so I’m working twice as hard. And everything I am doing is to secure a good life for us in the future.” But my girlfriend turned a deaf ear to everything I said.

She resorted to flirting with other guys just to get the attention she claimed I wasn’t giving her. When I complained she assured me, “Don’t worry, it’s nothing serious. I’m just playing with the hearts of these guys. Nothing will happen between us, I swear.” When she visits me and I’m on my phone answering calls and texts relating to work she complains that I am neglecting her. So I had to reduce the amount of time I spend on the phone in her presence. But now the tables have turned. She is the one who is always on her phone now. I put my phone away just so she wouldn’t feel I’m choosing my work over her, but then she goes ahead to stay on her phone whenever we are together. I complained about her behaviour several times but nothing changed.

About two months ago, she went out to a party with her friend. And according to Akos, they met some guys after the party who gave them a lift. She left out the part where they exchanged contacts. I only found out about that when the guy started calling her and visiting her. I don’t know what work this guy is doing but he always visits my girlfriend at the shop she works at, and at home too. He even comes to drop her off at my place whenever she is coming to visit me. I raised my objections to their closeness in the beginning but she told me, “Just because I have a boyfriend doesn’t mean I can’t have male friends. Relax, this guy is just my friend.”

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I wanted to believe that indeed they are just friends but how could I? When I read their chats I realized that she sends him ‘good morning’ texts. She would ask about his night and whatnot. In the afternoon she texts him, “How is your day going? How is work treating you today?” Then in the evening, she asks if he has closed from work. I’m hurt by this because she doesn’t do this to me. She expects me to always be the one initiating conversations. Then on days, I don’t do it, she complains that I don’t have time for her.

Now the new man visits her every evening. The friend she is living with told me this. She also told me that Akos and the guy are now dating. I don’t want to believe it, because she introduced me to this guy as her boyfriend. Besides, they met only two months ago, so how could they be dating already?

I really love her and I don’t want to lose her but this her character is also getting out of hand. Is she treating me like this because I’m unemployed and hustling? Or it’s because this new guy has a car and is good-looking? I know that it’s not about love because she loves me. She is very beautiful. Many men are after her yet she chose me so that must mean something. Nobody has ever been able to come between us as this new guy has. Please, how do I put a stop to their relationship so I can have my girlfriend back?

—Yaw

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