I was transferred to Accra to work not long ago, and the most horrifying story of my life so far in Accra was getting a place to rent in Accra. I had to use all my savings to rent this place I’m living in. The landlord is a woman. She welcomed me here very nicely and did her best to make me feel like I’m in my own home.
She has a daughter, Jenny, who immediately became my friend, especially when she got to know I was new in Accra. Jenny would cook and bring me some. Even when her mother cooked, she found a way of sneaking some of the food to me. I was grateful for her friendship until it started getting intense.
She took me out one evening and introduced me to her friends as her boyfriend. She later told me she didn’t want them to be all over me. That night, when we came back home, she stayed in my room till very late. I didn’t know how to tell her to leave even when I was feeling sleepy. She said, “You can sleep if you want. I just want to finish this movie.”
I could see the signs of a hot iron, so I picked up my hammer and struck the iron while it was hot. She ended up spending the night with me.
The very next morning, when I met her mom in the corridor and greeted her, she told me, “I hope you’ll marry my daughter now that you’ve started sharing your room with her.”
I was shocked. I was wondering how she got to know about it so soon. I asked Jenny, and she said, “I told her. I told her this morning that I spent the night with you. Don’t worry, she knows everything.”
My name in this house has changed from Isaac to Asiw. Meanwhile, I haven’t proposed to her and have no intention of dating her. I only struck because the iron was hot. I have a girlfriend I’ve dated for years before relocating to Accra. I thought it was all fun, but it looks like I’m in deep trouble.
Is There A Man Out There Who Doesn’t Cheat?
What will I tell them when my girlfriend comes to visit? How can she be my wife when I haven’t proposed? My only option is to rent a new place, but with what money?
Now I don’t have peace in this house. While she’s calling me babe, her mom will be calling me Asiw. Her mom treats me like her own husband, cooking for me and serving me. I think when my rent expires, I won’t pay rent, but I don’t like her. She’s not the kind of woman I would want to spend the rest of my life with. Do I tell her the truth now, or do I just wait for the story to unfold by itself?
—Joshua
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when the rent expires just get a new place without telling them your whereabouts.
I think he should find a new place asap and relocate! EASY PEEZY!
Ah what make you think you can just “eat” and run away in such a situation? You should have completely avoided the “eating” aspect if you didn’t intend for a long term something. Your eating has put you in a dire situation and you can only escape by leaving the location
Chale, it ain’t easy as it always sounds!
“She’s not the kind of woman I would want to spend my life with” This should have made you not to entertain her. No boundaries just free s*x. That’s how children come from broken homes and women become single moms.
I pray they deal with you. I pray your girlfriend finds out and leaves you for good.
This is a hostile comment……we’ve had a back and forth before so seeing this hostile comment from you, leaves me surprised.
Chale, you not knowing that’s how some girls act and some women act…..leaves me so surprised. Joshua, I don’t suppose you are 19-22….that can be excused but above 22 and you don’t know this? chale?
Like you don’t know when you go live in someone’s house, and the houseowner’s have a ward who ain’t married they can start doing, asew-asew-asew, and forcing their ward on you via letting them cook for you, clean for you, etc. Chale, what kind of hole did you crawl out of to come to Accra without knowing this?
You have let the women get us! Making it look like men cannot be faithful. Look at the comment, @Mine even passed! Some of us are very unruly but we think!
Men, if you read this, learn.
1/ NEVER DATE SOMEONE FROM THE SAME NEIGHBORHOOD. (LIKE YOUR HOUSES ARE IN THE SAME SITE).
2/ NEVER DATE SOMEONE WHO IS A TENANT IN YOUR PARENTS’ HOUSE.
3/ NEVER DATE A CO-TENANT.
4/ NEVER DATE A CO-TENANT’S WARD.
5/ NEVER BE INVOLVED WITH A HOUSE-OWNER’S WARD.
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EVEN IF THEY PUSH FOR SOMETHING PERMANENT IN THESE SITUATIONS! DECLINE! ASSUMING THERE IS ANY POSITIVE VIBE, THEN LET THE PERSON HELP YOU RELOCATE AND THEN YOU PICK UP FROM THERE. DON’T DO IT WHILE UNDER THE SAME ROOF, IT WILL GO OVER YOU!
6/ WHEN A WOMAN IS OFFERING DOMESTIC SERVICES TO YOU, SET BOUNDARIES ON TIME OR PAY HER OFF FOR EACH SERVICE. IF SHE DECLINES, CHALE, TAKE HER NUMBER AND GIFT HER MONEY OVER MOMO AFTER EACH TASK. IF SHE STILL DECLINES, FIND A FINANCIAL NEED IN HER LIFE AND DO IT IN RETURN. NEVER TAKE ADVANTAGE OF SUCH A THING AND GO INTO ANY FORM OF ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP. IT WILL OVER YOU!
Yes, women can be genuinely kind but until she states it clearly, ignore any cues that uses such close marking techniques to get a man and ignore women like that! 3tw3 nny3 fo (Vagina is not cheap).
Joshua, relocate we beg! If it means taking a loan, do so! Relocate! Your troubles have already began! If your girlfriend ever visits you, you are faaked!
You’re playing with fire chalie! This could blow up in your face. Thread cautiously. Tread cautiously.
Be bold and honest with your landlord and her daughter. It’s a small world and you can’t keep running forever. It’s an uncomfortable situation and it’s obvious you need to relocate ASAP but don’t force yourself out until you can afford it and your rent expires. Arm yourself with an intermediary and a compensation package for the young lady. Chin up and be a man.