I didn’t have a father growing up, and it wasn’t a pleasant experience. Because of that, I always hoped my children would have the kind of father I never got to have. But now, it seems I have no choice but to walk away from my marriage because otherwise, my children may end up without a mother.

I found my husband cheating on me after I texted the number that was constantly calling his phone. Each time that number called, he said it was a cleaner at his workplace that he was being benevolent towards. I didn’t buy that lie, and texting her revealed the truth that he was indeed cheating on me.

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When he found out that I knew, he didn’t return home for a whole week. When he came back, he went straight into asking for forgiveness of sins, and then he said he cheated because of me. “What do you mean because of me?”

He stuttered for a moment before answering.

“I wanted a son. All you’ve given me are girls.”

I could hardly believe what I was hearing.

Somehow, we moved past that stage and I got pregnant again, but I gave birth to a girl again. When I told him that I put to birth, he insisted I stay at my mother’s place till I was ready to be moved to our home.

I have done the mothering thing three times, so I didn’t exactly need pampering and I didn’t mind him. Besides, I knew the kind of man he was. So I returned home the first week in December of last year, and the first night I arrived we were sitting down and chatting about what I had missed in my absence when I felt an object in his pocket.

I tried touching it and he jumped, saying it was nothing. Curiosity got the best of me so I went searching for nothing, only to find out it was lubricant. He said the next morning that it was for a friend.

That same morning, I was tidying up and throwing old papers and receipts away when I realized one of the receipts was from a pharmacy, and when I looked at the medicine, it was dragon spray. So I searched it up and realized it was a sexual enhancement. Meanwhile I had been away for some months now, so what on earth was he doing with a dragon spray?

And I did what I didn’t want to do, searching through his phone. It was difficult since he always hid his phone when sleeping, but one day I caught him. He slept off while holding the phone and it was open, so I quickly went through it.

Initially I didn’t find anything because he doesn’t have his contacts saved, but one message caught my eye and I opened the chat. In the chat, the girl was asking whether he poured it in and he said he didn’t. I took the number and called the girl. She explained she didn’t know he was married until he took her to his house where she saw toddler stuff.

Meanwhile my husband claimed he was single and searching and had only a child, so she became suspicious and blocked him after sleeping with him on our bed.

God, I have never felt this broken before. I wasn’t hurt that he cheated, I was more hurt he stained our matrimonial bed. The girl in question called to insult him and he called me back to ask why I would go and disgrace myself like that, to ask why I would call someone and give his picture out because the girl said she would curse him. He didn’t apologise but I forgave him.

Many months later, my husband came home and immediately ran to take a bath, which he doesn’t normally do. I became suspicious and checked his bag and realized he had purchased another dragon spray, so I took it out and threw it away.

Immediately after his bath he wore a nice dress and was picking up his bag to go for fresh air. If you put two and two together, what do you think he was going to do?

I had the worst Christmas last year. Some days, I spent telling him how serious STDs were. Other days, I reminded him of how much I had given up for him, supporting the home when he had no job and carrying responsibilities that should never have fallen on one person alone.

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He says he regrets his actions, but I don’t know about that. Sometimes, it feels like he’s only saying that because I went out with a friend. I didn’t know he still had that kind of jealousy in him.

As for me, I am moving on and concentrating on my children and myself. He is a grown man, and I’ll allow him to live his life. If he wants to be a father, that’s fine. If not, then that’s his problem.

—Jenny

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