I’ve been married for four years and we still don’t have a child.
At first, I hoped conception would happen naturally. I kept telling myself that our time would come. But after four years of waiting and nothing happening, I decided to visit a popular fertility hospital here in Ghana, hoping that whatever the issue was could be identified and resolved.
The tests started. Then came the medications and injections. Hmmm.
I have swallowed so many pills that I can’t even remember some of their names. Through it all, my husband has been incredibly supportive. He has stood by me every step of the way.
Finally, after months of treatments, medications and endless appointments, my doctor sat me down and gave me the results. He said my ovarian reserve is very low and that he would recommend IVF. Then he added something that completely changed everything. He recommended IVF with donor eggs.
At that moment, my heart sank but what shook me even more was what he said next. He told me the decision was entirely mine and that I could go ahead with the procedure without informing my husband that donor eggs would be used.
Since that day, I haven’t known what to think. I know my husband. I know he will not approve of donor eggs. So what happens now? Do I abandon the option completely and continue waiting to conceive naturally?
I believe with all my heart that there is nothing too difficult for God to do. But at this point, I’m confused.
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Is this God’s way of providing an answer to my prayers? Or is it simply an option I should walk away from? To say I’m in a dilemma is an understatement. Do I go ahead with the donor egg option and keep it a lifelong secret? Or do I let it go and continue waiting?
I’m literally going crazy here.
Goodness!
—May
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Isaiah 60:22b
It says, ‘”At the right time, I the Lord will make it happen ”.
Don’t settle for just anything, pray to God and he’ll come through
I disagree with the Doctor’s suggestion. It must be agreed to by your husband. What if you go by it and in later years there comes the need for a DNA, would it be then that you tell your husband the truth?. Let your husband know the outcome of the tests and then find solutions together. May you find favour with the Lord.
Don’t use dodnir eggs without your husband’s approval. It’s his child too, and he equally deserves to know exactly where his child is coming from. I think you shoukd try IVF but let them use your own eggs. Your reserve may be low but certainly not non existent. Once it exists, ise your own eggs and trust God, He will come through. It may be tough, but isn’t tough His specialty? Don’t resort to deception. Trust God and He will do it for you. Maybe not even on the first try but even with perfectly sufficient eggs, they don’t always get it on the first try. Don’t let the devil deceive you and make you do something regrettable.