Our relationship was already falling apart when she got pregnant. That was why I asked her to terminate it. I asked her what she wanted to do first because I did not want it to feel like I was making decisions over her body. She looked at me and said, “You decide.”

Truthfully, if things between us had been good, I would have wanted the baby. But by then, too many things had changed. I did not think she was ready to be a mother, and I wanted one woman who could become both my wife and the mother of all my children. We had reached the point where every little thing between us felt heavy, and I was going to break up with her very soon.

Men know. Men know when they want a woman to become the mother of their children. I wanted her to be that woman for me. I truly did.

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But after a few visits to my place, the scales fell from my eyes.

The first night she slept over at my place, I could barely breathe. There was a strong smell around her that filled the room. My head started pounding so badly that the left side of my eye hurt. I left the bedroom and slept in the living room.

Sometime in the night, I felt someone touch my shoulder. It was her. She asked if I was so repulsed by her that I could not even sleep beside her.

I was still half asleep, but even then I lied well. I told her I was just trying to be a gentleman, that I did not want to disturb her sleep.

That morning, she did not use deodorant. Later in the evening, she still had not. I had to remind her to brush her teeth after breakfast before she finally did.

Honestly, I was appalled by the state of things. Her clothes were everywhere, and I was constantly picking up after her. One day, I found her bra hanging on top of the tall wardrobe like someone had thrown it there and forgotten about it. She never seemed to know where she left her toothbrush after using it. Even her sanitary pads were left around carelessly and unkempt.

When I first met her during our national service year, she was the most beautiful girl in the office. I became her friend before making any move. Even from afar, she carried herself so well. So when things started changing, I did not know how to bring it up without embarrassing her or making her withdraw from me completely.

I am not the kind of man who easily grows to hate the person he is with. Honestly, I could have managed her unhygienic habits if that was all there was to it. But stealing from me was the final blow.

Money started going missing anytime she was around. At first, I thought I was being careless, that maybe I had spent it and forgotten. But it kept happening.

So I checked my home CCTV footage. I saw her taking money from my wallet.

Not long after that, we found out she was pregnant.

I kept asking myself a hard question. If I were a man deciding for his future, would I let this woman become the mother of my children?

It was not an easy decision, but I made it. I still ask myself for forgiveness. I hope God understands what I could not fully explain. I hope I learn to forgive myself too.

We have not spoken since we returned from the clinic. I followed her home afterward to make sure nothing went wrong. Since then, silence has filled the space between us.

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I think this is where it ends. I am not trying to excuse myself. But what would you have done if you were me? Would you willingly have children with someone who could not even take care of herself properly? Someone who had to be reminded to brush her teeth and do basic things for herself?

—Yeboah

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