Hello Akonoba,

We are not in class five, but I hope this letter I am writing to you at Silent Beads finds you well and strong by God’s grace. I hope all is well with you. It has been a long time.

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For a very long time, I have been yearning to let you know how I truly feel about our breakup, and I think it is best to do that now. I am really sorry for any inconvenience this letter may cause. I apologize.

I never imagined us not talking to each other, not even for a day. Back then, I would have sworn it would kill me not hearing from you. Yet here I am, very much alive. Life happened.

I wanted everything to be transparent with you. That is why I told you about everything going on in my life, even when I came to Koforidua. I understood why you were feeling insecure, which is why I kept reassuring you. God is my witness that I was not hiding anything from you.

About the SIM card issue, the Catherine issue, and the lady who came to sleep at my place, I lied. I was not receiving any salary from anyone. I was only surviving on support from my mum and sometimes the allowances you gave me. Whenever someone gave me money, I did not hide it from you. I shared it into two and gave you your part. The only time I could not share was when my mum gave me money specifically to buy cooking utensils. Even that one, you made a mountain out of a molehill.

You complained about almost everything, and it gave me sleepless nights. I called you and pleaded with you to reduce it for my sake. You told me plainly that you would, but I should know it would not help our relationship. You still went ahead and did it anyway. You ghosted me for three days. Ei Akonoba. You did not even ask how I was doing. Instead, you asked whether I had come to your place to take something from your room.

For the first time, I was furious with you. I tried to stay calm, but I made a very painful mistake by telling you we should break up. Honestly, I did not mean it. That is why I later apologized. But your emotions did not help matters. Because of what you were going through, you felt justified to do anything, even blocking me.

Still, you should have reconsidered the mutual relationship we had by accepting my numerous apologies. I sent people to you to beg on my behalf, as if you were a chief priest who had to accept sacrifices to the gods. Only God knows what I went through, just as He knows what you went through.

You blocked me for two months. I will not blame you too much because I know you were hurt. You sought advice from people, and they gave you the wrong advice. I remember telling you never to involve outsiders in our issues, not even my mum. That decision broke me deeply. But I loved you, so I kept apologizing relentlessly.

At first, I asked for my things because I thought it would make you reconsider and help us reconcile. Things became messier when I asked my brother to come for my shoe. You brought other items we had bought for our traditional marriage. I intentionally asked about the remaining ones, not because I wanted them, but because I hoped it would give you another chance to reconsider. It went back and forth. Neither of us won. We both lost.

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Even after all that, I still tried to reach you. You told me to leave you alone. So I did, in body. But my heart? It never left. I thought of you every single day. I still think of you. I am not in pain anymore, but the healing is not complete. I pray one day I will be truly free.

Thank you for everything you were to me. You will always have a special place in my heart. I wish nothing but good luck and the best for you, for both of us.

Long live Akonoba.

Long live Agudeɛ.

—Oheneba Jessica

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